I need help!

I have been away from Santa Barbara and started a real estate company by the beach. I´m doingwell with it. Got great friends, have fun etc.
Before thta I used to live in Santa Barbara and I had the coolest girlfriend.
Now after 4 months I come back.
She looked very happy to see me but kept looking at me angry.
We had a date to meet up and she didn´t show.
This is the first time ever she stood me up.

I blame myself, but it is not about that.

What should I do?

I am seriously hurt, even though I hadn´t been with her in 4 months, I have thought about her every single day.

What should I do and how can I show her that I am not BSing when I tell her that I THINK I love her (I really think I do, but am not 100% sure about it, I just know thatthe hought of being without her hurts. This is not one of my spam posts. I need advice. Thanks a lot!)



Mike



P.S.: She is the same girl I was talking about here http://forums.digitalpoint.com/showthread.php?t=476957
You guys´advice was superb. I talk to my friends offline and they say forget her.
I can´t
I love you guys, I want those who really have something to say give me some advice.

 

hmm do you believe in GOD? have faith... it happens wid everyone... give some time...

 

I am gonna buy her a gift today and bring it by her work today. Thanks!

 

I am more sincere than I was ever before.

 

Is the girl Costa Rican and Santa Barbara in Costa Rica?

 

Santa Barbara de Heredia, Costa Rica and she is Costa Rican.

 

That explains a lot. She probably wants a man not a boyfriend.

 

I don´t know what you mean, bro. If she gives me another chance, I WILL marry her. The problem is I am still legally married in the U.S. (seperated for 5 years) and my wife will not grant me a divorce.


6 months ago she said she would like to marry me, but I left. I regret it now, bigtime.

 

Just tell her that you want her to be your mujer, move in with you and you will take care of her. Buy her a little house in Santa Barbara and live happily ever after.

 

I hope it´s that easy.

 

It usually is if the girls is interested.

Does the girl have a cellphone or is the number to her house or the next door neighbor?

 

I forgot and lost her phone number when I was gone. I tried to play it off by giving her mine in case she forgot. She said she was gonna call me but shedidn´t.

 

1. Ask her why she stood you up
2. Tell her that you love her, as it certainly sounds like you do
3. Give it some more time (be patient, but don't let what is not meant to be grow old with you)
4. If she continues to behave in this way while you have been good to her, then move on
5. Make sure you really have been good to her (not in your own eyes--she may have something to say about you that you aren't aware of, as we often tend to think more highly of ourselves than we really should, and to the hurt of others nonetheless)
6. Be open to change, but don't lose yourself in the process

The problem may not be with you, but with her. Unless you do what I have told you it will be quite difficult to discover its root.

Keep in mind that just because you have strong feelings for someone that that doesn't mean you are meant to be with that person. Many things must be factored into the equation. Compatibility is a must in any relationship. If there exists issues within a relationship that both parties refuse to resolve, and they are of such a nature as to cause unnecessary pain, then that is usually a strong indication that the people involved should not be an intimate couple as it were, but should just simply part ways as friends.

 

Hmm sorry man thath hursts evrytime

Don't know what to say : Maybe have a sincere discussion abou you and her ....

 

It happens. She is going to have to play a little hard to get.

But just wondering if she has a cell phone. Maybe her house phone isn't working and it was a hassle to call you from the neighbors house.

You can always tell her that you called and got a wrong number. Confirm the phone number with her.

 

I have some simple advise. Get another girlfriend

With the number of woman out there there is no reason to stick with that one if she doesn't like you.

 

Hey I understand how you feel man...If you are really really in love with someone it's not just easy to say "forget bout it". Perhaps she is feeling the insecurity after being left alone without your presence for quite some time. Don't force yourself too hard to convince, and instead approach her slowly. Call her up. Show to her that you still care and most important, make her understand you are willing to be there for her. Girls always appreciate that and they don't like being force into something. Wish you luck buddy.