Heh heh. Weird thing is, I put the eyepatch on him long before the op, but ended up with my patch being on the same eye Partly why I've kept it
Wow, Reviews I’m so glad you said that. It really changed my view on women. Only a small percentage of women are true b*tches or are crazy. Surprisingly though I have dated a large percentage. I guess I just like that kind of fun that dating women that watch you while you sleep brings. The thing is most guys can’t grasp the way women operate and think. Even if they do that they don’t grasp the way that the particular woman they are interested in operates and thinks. The thing is on the surface most women are the same. Women want a strong man. They want to feel safe. However, what a woman considers strong varies from woman to woman. Some measure strength by physical attributes, others by mental, and still other by emotional. What makes a woman feel safe varies, too. For some it’s a physical closeness of a hug or an arm around them. Some women feel safe by a verbal reassurance that their man is there for them no matter what. The reason of the thread is docquesting is having trouble with women. It’s because you are letting women take advantage or you, and not in the good way. I can guarantee you that the guy the girl asked you to call, there’s no way she would have asked him the same question, because there’s no way he would do it.
The bottom line is that noone is responsible for making you happy or taking care of you. That's up to you. If you can't stand up for yourself then yea, some people will walk all over you. You have to tell people what you consider unacceptable behavior (because they can't read your mind) and if you continue to have problems with someone then you have to be willing to walk away. Easier said than done sometimes, but the more you stand up for yourself the easier it gets.
Dreamshop is correct and to help show you how to accomplish this she and I are going to reenact the first scenario that you posted and show you a correct alternative to it. Hey dreamshop. What's up?
lol Hey Hodgy! Oh my gawd...we haven't talked in so long. blah blah blah. What's up? I've been totally missing you! Blah blah blah. Hey, there's this guy I'm desparate to get in touch with. His name's Chris. Do you have long distance? Can you call him for me. I need him to call me back! Do it for me...kay? *smooches*
I've been married before and when shit hits the fan, it really does get all over the place. Nothing worse than being miserable knowing that whenever you get happy, the other one will find a way to bring you down (well, it is a 2 way street actually, I kinda did the same). ANyhow, yeah, find a cool chick to hang with, but before you put a ring on, double check yourself before you get in a major wreck
OK. She basically just asked me to call some guy and have him call her. She wants me to spend my money to call him and then have him spend his money to call her. You can take a couple of approaches here depending on your own personal style. 1)Open I can’t believe that you would ask me to do that out of the blue. I thought we were friends, but obviously I must have misjudged our friendship if you are just trying to use me to make a phone call. 2)Bartering Why don’t you get on your webcam and show me something first. (If she does it’s up to you whether you call or not). 3)Direct Who the hell do you think I am? You think I’ll just be used like that just because you’re cute. Think again. Try to sucker someone else you skeezy hoochie. 4)Vindictive Sure give me your number.(then you post her number all over the place for anonymous sex). 5)Honest Listen I’m not some messenger service. If you like talking to me then we can talk. If you don’t then you can find some one else to try to connect your call. If I were you I’d use option 1 or 5. Let's say I went with number 5 Dreamshop, listen I’m not some messenger service. If you like talking to me then we can talk. If you don’t then you can find some one else to try to connect your call.
docquesting, don't worry, man! Something tells me that women see you as somewhat of a wimp. I think you need to take some karate or boxing lessons. Get a heavy bag and pound on it for a few hours each day. You should also become proficient w/ some sort of weapon(s). Learn how to use sais or tonfas. Then get in some fights just to see how tough you are. Finally, when you're ready, you can take your women out and pick a fight w/ someone. You will beat the living bejesus out of him and gain the utmost respect from 'the ladies'. In other words-
LOL harsh but good point. Don't be a victim, tell her "no" and move on to a chick that appreciates you ...
Fighting is never a good option, if you are a pansy. What Rob is suggesting is for you to grow a pair, but I’m not sure this is the best route for you. If you do ever end up a woman then chances are she will leave you for someone who can satisfy her sexually. I’m not sure how set you are on this whole heterosexual thing
Thing is I know some staunch guys who have been worked over by women and when you look at the women they're not necessarily good looking, bright, "tidy" and they're not always getting laid either. I don't know how they do it but they know just how to manipulate these guys and turn them into pussies. While I don't approve I'd sure as hell like to know how they do it. Could use those skills occassionally...
Another option is to simple state that you find this unacceptable. ie. "Sorry but I'm not comfortable doing that" or "I have a rule about not doing XYZ for people...(because I've had bad experiences with it in the past), (because I'm on a limited budget), (unless it's an emergency), etc. You can also just tell people "hey I kind of feel like this is crossing the line of what I consider rude behavior and I don't want to be a part of it". Whatever, the idea is to just be upfront about what your boundaries are. In fact if you ever want to really wow a girl use that word "boundaries'. Heh...you'll shock her into submission. You where I actually learned all of this? Having to deal with my dysfunctional parents. There's nothing that will shut someone down quicker than simpy saying..."I don't deserve to be treated in this manner, call me back later when you're able to show some respect." Buh-bye click
Get this one and get bag gloves too. http://store.titleboxing.com/titleboxing-everlast-leather-training-bags.html DO NOT GET A VINYL BAG! I had to buy one once and it was ripped to shreads in just a few days. And if you don't have a place to hang the bag or if your mom would bitch about the whole house shaking, get a free standing bag.
Don’t go the way of the Rob. As a man who has had sex with a lot of wimps’ girlfriends, I’m telling you that you should take a different route. First you’re going to be out some money. Then you’re going to get beat up and the guy is going to pee on your head while you lay there bleeding. I’ve seen it a thousand times.
Now that you guys have helped so much already and I am sorta feeling sorry for myself should I go on lol?.......................................
Your right. I am trying to learn the hard lesson of life is what you make out of it and dont put up with crap you dont have to. Maybe the wrong attitude but what the heck atleast for the most part I should be happier than the next guy hopefully lol.