Why Women "run" From Nice Guys

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  1. #1
    I know of a lot of guys who say, "I know
    this girl who's beautiful and smart and
    attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
    everything in common, and we get along
    perfectly, but she says that she's just not
    attracted to me, "

    Have you ever noticed that:

    1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
    to be attracted to men who don't treat them very
    well?

    2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more
    she often seems to act like "just a friend" to
    you?

    What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be
    "nice" to girls?

    Here's the deal: Women aren't usually
    romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
    attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
    mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're
    not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to
    learn how to attract women with your personality.

    And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
     
    ejeba, Sep 3, 2009 IP
  2. parkercent

    parkercent Peon

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    #2
    Ha ha, one of life's little "jokes". They don't want you until you're not available.

    Chin up. Younger women like bad boys, but they'll marry a nice guy. As long as he can provide for the nest.
     
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    #3
    Ah yes and then they will get bored of the nice guy in their marriage and run off for some bad boy fun.

    It's important to try and cultivate both lover and provider traits. Obviously you need to be more of a exciting bad boy at the start but be one who can provide as well.
     
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  4. pingpong123

    pingpong123 Well-Known Member

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    #4
    I would say it seems like alot of women are like that, but the solution is very simple. Leave these types of immature, game playing women alone. My first date was with a hot model, and that was the last time I would date that type of woman. If your girl is shallow and wants the bad boy type then ignore her and go find a real woman.


    I prefer the cute girl next door type who knows how to care for her soulmate and be cared for by her soulmate. Walking hand in hand is what its all about.
     
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    Hehe well depends on what kind of nice guy they are.... if your referring to good looking girls its probably because the "nice guy" didn't have enough in him to make his move or that the girl needs more then nice! I have found that nice guys seem to miss that edge to them, no spontenous side or no mysterious side to them...not all good looking girls go for the guy that treats them bad
     
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    I'm a nice guy, and I've NEVER had a problem getting a girl.

    I think it depends on the girl. If they aren't shallow and close-minded, they'll go for the nice guy. I've always hated the "Nice guys finish last" model, personally.
     
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    lotstosay Guest

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    yes that's true spbx, does depend on the girl too!
     
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  8. Clarisse

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    Sometimes, men were just trying to be nice when in fact they are not so girls tend to go with the badguys for atleast they never had to pretend to be nice.
     
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    u4mee Banned

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    #9
    I know of a lot of guys who say, "I know
    this girl who's beautiful and smart and
    attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
    everything in common, and we get along
    perfectly... but she says that she's just not
    attracted to me..."
    Women aren't usually
    romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
    attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
    mysterious.
     
    u4mee, Sep 3, 2009 IP
  10. hohohihi

    hohohihi Peon

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    Interesting, never thought of this before. Maybe this is why I have troubled finding a girl for myself :D
     
    hohohihi, Sep 4, 2009 IP
  11. robyray

    robyray Peon

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    #11
    I dont know about that.
    But I know some girls are very smarter who even dont want any boys to live ..
    They can go along with them nicely..
    But they dont want to live along with them..
    Only friends they want to be with
     
    robyray, Sep 4, 2009 IP
  12. Pai Mei

    Pai Mei Peon

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    #12
    women like thugs and people who treat them poorly. it is illogical, but so are women.
     
    Pai Mei, Sep 4, 2009 IP
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    vibinhari Notable Member

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    Umm... I'm a nice guy... I do all right in the ladies department
     
    vibinhari, Sep 4, 2009 IP
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    #14
    Some are selfish

    they leave boys after to their work

    and some boys also do like this

    therefore they afraid !
     
    Awan-G, Sep 5, 2009 IP
  15. gainerguru

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    Well, ejeba is true.. Even i have noticed few girls who care for people who dont actually treat them well.. They are never interested in nice guys around


    Understanding a GIRL is still a mystery
     
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    I think Younger women like bad boys, but they'll marry a nice guy.
     
    Mechanical, Sep 5, 2009 IP
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    #17
    i can not think that really.
     
    mak1751986, Sep 7, 2009 IP
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    #18
    I guess they run because they *know* they wont be nice forever
     
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    #19
    I don't know if this is universally true. it used to be back in high school, I remember, but now I'm pretty sure girls (the ones worth having, anyway) are looking for nicer, smarter guys. hopefully not only because they want to be provided for, although I'm sure that has something to do with it.
     
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    qualityhostings Well-Known Member

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    #20
    Going after beautiful and smart gals might not make you happy even if you are sucessful, so instead of going after good looking devils I think one should settle for avrage looking trustworthy gals.:)
     
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