How can something like that be illegal. People can't live other than in couples?? Who says life in two is the best way of living; and even if it is, why can't some people not live the 'best way' or simply chose for themselves which is the best way for them.
Polygamy isn't illegal unless you're married.. If you're polygamous then you shouldn't get married, as marriage is a sign of monogamous devotion... Besides, marriage within polygamy is frightening..
Well, besides muslims who are ok with polygamy (but not the one I'm talking about), are there any other countries where polygamy is legal? I might be talking only about US, Europe and maybe Asia... I can't help but relating always to these cultures which are familiar to me.
I'm not a ploygamous (yet ) but was just wandering about it. I think everyone has the right to normally get married, gay people etc. Why can't 3 or 4 people live happily together and be married, have the social and economical rights and privileges...
Well, because marriage is a traditional thing which is originally Christian.. And Christians believe Monogamy is the only way..
Worth trying and should be legal - everyone willing in the relationship. Just how the sleeping arrangements work out would be interesting, and how it works out over time and the finances, washing the dishes, the laundry etc. etc.
Nonsense. Everything is frightening to those who have never experienced it. Lets not forget about the heartbreak experienced by polygamists who are unable to obtain their spouses wealth without probate when the bread winner of the family dies. Why do these people deserve any worse treatment under their marriage arrangement than a monogamous couple? It is outright discrimination, and the Supreme court needs to address it at the same time they consider the gay marriage ban.
Ummm... no. Both polygamous and monogamous marriage predate Christianity. The ancient Greeks and the pre-Christian Jews practiced both monogamous and polygamous marriages, as did many (most?) other cultures.
I didn't mean it in a "the world's coming to an end" kind of way, I am not at all prejudiced against polygamists, quite the opposite! Relax! What I meant is the whole idea of marriage traditionally is monogamy.. So for me personally, the idea of mixing the two would be frightening for me - if I were to be polygamous, I would not want marriage to be involved, is what I was saying
I'm not sure that's true; I think that polygamous marriage predates monogamous marriage. Besides, isn't monogamous marriage just a special case of polygamous marriage?
I completely agree with you. IMO, if someone is incapable of remaining monogamous, and wants to sleep around with various people, perhaps they should just stay single?
Actually, in hindsight, I probably was a little hasty with what I said.. You may be right there.. And as for the second part - for most cases, it probably is!
Maybe they want to be in a nice polygamous marriage? Have you read about line marriages, which Robert Heinlein described in The Moon is a Harsh Mistress?
Technically, we could argue that to deny polygamists the right to marriage is discrimination. But, on a personal level, I have no respect for polygamy, I regard it as cheating on your spouse. I believe that marriage should be a unity between two human consenting adults, that's it. When I think of polygamy, it makes me think of abusive cults that brainwash women into believing that's all they deserve. Wouldn't it seem awful if Ali said, you know Will, I think I'll be with you on Tuesday night, but Wednesday with Fred, Thursday with Tom, Friday with Harry, etc. That's not a marriage to me, I look at marriage as being something more sacred. It's just my personal opinion, you may not agree, and that's ok too.
I don't mind anyone feeling that way, I just don't believe that it's morally right to force our preferences upon others. I'm sure that people in multiple-partner marriages feel that their marriages are as sacred as your two-partner marriage.
Spoken like a woman. What you forget is that marriage for love is relatively new phenomena. The most important aspect of marriage through history was the question of inheritance and division of the property. That is the reason that while most cultures had polygamy by men marrying multiple women ( you could still know who was the father), very few had polygamy by women (you couldn´t know who was the father). One of these few exceptions was in India were the woman owned the land and all her husbands were working on the land and since all children were hers, the father question didn´t matter because they would inherit from her.
Cheating is when the person who is 'cheated' has no knowledge about its partner's love affair. But when all adults involved know about each other and regard themselves as family members it has a whole other image. It even seems to me more exciting than life in two. Even for the children, I think it's healthier to grow up in larger families, they learn about a lot of things which are totally missed by families with one or two kids.
Polygamy is not cheating at all... Cheating is disloyalty within a monogamous relationship. Polygamy is about LOVING more than one person, not fancying a sh@g with random people..