I never said anything about divorce. I love my husband. We all have our faults. I was typing out of pure exhaustion and frustration the other night and sometimes it is better to vent to complete strangers than to my husband (as exhausted and frustrated as I was, I knew it would just start a fight) Plus what are the biggest factors that couples fight over (Finances, Children and Sex) They are the 3 main issues in a marriage. Am I right??
Really?? Sure, I would love for my husband to go do a prostitute or get some sex buddies, When I said, I DO- I meant sure- go screw around on me and give me a STD or something. SERIOUSLY!!! It's not as if I am a frigid person who never gives him attention but I am also a worker, a mother, a wife, a housekeeper, a friend and the list goes on. so at this point and time in my life, I can't lay around screwing every night and if he's horny and I'm not, he always has Palmela and her 4 sisters (and in case you don't know what this means, it's called his hand or maybe he could go to a lovecraft store and buy a pocket p****y) Sorr
Muffet, you are probably accurate with this. I am 34 - When my daughter is 18, I will be 40- LOL My husband probably should watch out at that point, I might go through the whole midlife crisis thing (Get the sports car, facelift, tattoo etc and become a sex crazed maniac haha- Child off to college, more financially secure, less stress) than he will be the one posting- Oh God, my wife wants too much sex LOL That would be funny.Thank you for your actual helpful response (and not just being a smartass) That's what these threads should be like- Being able to chat about things- Everyone wants to chat about different subjects - which is why there are different threads
DJ- You are so right with this. If my husband didn't pressure me so much, I would want it more. I think it goes back to the whole Men are from Mars- Women are from Venus thing LOL- Men see things through black and white whereas wome are emotion - Thanks for the mature feedback
LOL Tommy, I am not that bad. My husband gets it on average twice a week so I would hardly say he is deprived )) Now, if you talked to him, he acts like he gets it about 3 times a year but he usually always gets at least twice a week so he is far from underloved haha
You must be talking about women that don't have careers and children because those of us that have that surely don't have the time or energy to be sneaking around with multiple men LOL At least, not the women I associate with
THat sounds sad... Does your husband a idiot?he doesnt know how to love his love? WHy you 2 get married?
Jason- There are some days whereas I just really love my husband and there are others that I feel that I got married because we both have the need for our daugthers (I have a daughter from a prior relationship and so does he) to have a family. We were together for 6 years before marrying. My daughter is 12 and his is 9. They are like sisters. I love his daughter as my own. Her mom is not a good mom and not going to go into details and he is not dad of the year to his own but weird, with mine, he is awesome step dad. so I just run for both girls because I love them both much and I feel so bad for his daughter because I know if it wasn't for me, she wouldn't have a decent life. I am not going to go into the court battles we've had or social services investigating the mom etc . I just love the child and just know that if I am not there to consistently keep the mom on her toes (as she is afraid to go back to court) and pressure him, she would be put in a bad place. I am not willing to do that to her. I've been here since she was 3. I fight for her all the time. I am not going to let her down. My girls are sisters. They are so close and love each other so much. They don't have any other siblings (only each other) and I am going to keep them together. When they get older, they can make their own decisions. Also, my husband is not a bad person either. He works hard. He is only 29 I am hoping to change the others He is very good to me though
Woah, mreb1010, you oughta learn how to quote replies. Double or multi posting can get you infracted, ya know?
IN my personal life I have always found the women I am with to want sex more. So I understand the "pressure" side of things, but I dont believe "Men" want it more on average or any of that nonsense. I honestly believe you hit the nail on the head with what you said. *You* are too busy. If you were not too busy and had more time to enjoy life it probably would not be such a big deal. Also suggest TELLING him not to pressure you about it. Men don't take hints, at all. Like a previous poster said, its probably time for a little chat. Not a fight, but a chat about what's going on and where your minds are at. Best of luck!
I think men are the more craving for sex rather than women because men was so attract and active to the body of a lady..for me those who have husband and wife should understand each other and talk about that when should they have sex they must set a schedule on that matter...
@mreb1010: I get a picture about you and your husband. However, I don't feel that his 'lack of responsibility' means that he is a bad person. As you said, it's mostly about his bringing up. Regarding Sex, the biggest difference between men and women are that men can have sex even after getting shot. Their emotions hardly affect their horniness (at least for me). I guess you can openly talk about this with him, which probably is the best thing. I'm sure that he will understand why you don't want sex or don't feel like loving him at certain points.
On average men definitely don't crave sex more than women. But we are much more verbal and upfront about it. It's all in the social conditioning. Your man needs to get connected to his male core. Be the man that he was supposed to be. A man of action. Be a real man. An alpha man. He is living his life in a stagnating way. If he can be a real man again, then he can make you feel like a woman again. And sex will not be a chore to you, it will be you who wants him every night. (and morning, afternoon etc.) You will feel real passion, deeper love and you will feel like he truly understands you and your needs. Sex is supposed to give you more energy. It is supposed to give you happiness all through the day. Knowing that YOUR MAN, the man that could hold the world on his shoulders, is always going to be there for you. You know he can handle anything life throws at him. No obstacle is too high for him. He will always conquer and make everything right. When you are in his arms you know you can forget about all the problems in your day/life the world. Because he is there to protect you, keep you safe and make everything all right. You don't need to find a man who can do this. He can be that man, because he is a man. And when you married him you obviously saw it in him. ....Or maybe he hasn't done his All natural male organ growth exercises....I know a great website about that....LoL
My last girlfriend had a higher sex drive than me. I didn't think that was possible, but she was a little crazy and nuts, I seem to attract those kinda people lol.
It is usually men who are more interested in sex - but not always, despite what many people think. I'm a woman and I'd love to have sex with my partner twice a day; but that is too often for him - I think his ideal idea would be more like once every two days ^-^;