The other day my gf started thinking (something I hate her do all the time!) She loves me (really does), I love her a lot too. But she thinks she is cheating on her parents by falling in love with someone whom they wont ever approve (they dnt even know yet). We are of different sub castes (Screw the religion...i am an aethist for that matter), she thinks we need to be seperated for my own good. She thinks if she spends more time with me, she will be so addicted to me that she will disrespect her family and parents and come out to live with me. But I feel parents ought to listen and do the best for her childern right? hence they shud approve her decision...yes? How can I convince her to be with me and solve this non existent problem? Love Gurus of DP...HELP!!!!
First off I wish you best of luck. I know what you are going through or are about to go through and it will not be easy. My situation was taking place in the USA. I am from Europe and she was from India. I fought for her 2 years and she even moved out but at the end of the day her family had more pull (they threatened to kill themselves due to loss of their faces in their cast). She went back after having moved out for a month and within a week her parents send her off to India and got her married off to a guy that is a complete a##hole and she is regretting it to this day. She has been trying to get me back but I told her she would first have to get divorced. And that seems to be impossible. She still calls me every once in a while but she lost me forever I have moved on. I got tired of the headaches and pain. As I said I am from Europe and very liberal and have never been exposed to so much religious or customs pressure. I wish people would sometimes just realize that their is more than their little self centered world. It seems that the parents aren't all that happy with their new son. Go figure. You ask for advice: each situation is different and none of us can look inside you or her to understand how strong both of you are and if you would defeat the pressure but if I were to be in that situation again I would move on ASAP. Hope all goes well for you.