Personally! I will like to suggest you to learn & get command over C Language! as it is easy & good for beginners!
I want to be able to design and build member based websites. Where members can upload and share videos.
First, learn how to use Google to answer this question that gets asked over and over again on countless forums.
But you gotta admit, they are great for jacking up our post counts I don't care if the question is repetitive because the replies are sometimes interesting. Start with HTML, CSS, and Javascript. Then learn the basics of either PHP or ASP. Only after all that should you start learning databases (MySQL). For designing websites, learn how to make PSD templates with Photoshop.
To learn Programming u should start to learn C first and then go for C++ just to make u r base clear.Then select any programming language wich u found intresting.
If you want to become web development start with html, then go to js,php and final mysql. For basic understanding you can start with C.
I learned Java as my first programming language. (HTML is a markup language.) It was difficult, but after learning it, PHP and C# were a lot easier. Javascript is almost a "cut&paste" language for me that I sometimes edit a little. SQL I learned after Java and C#. I would say use this order of scripts: HTML>CSS>PHP>MySQL with some JavaScript thrown in there somewhere.
HTML, XHTML, CSS, , JAVA, PHP, ASP, I leanrt all these things (in that order) off w3school tutorials (google w3school). the tutes wont make you an expert (im far, far, from it) but they give you a good basic understanding.