Ok the situation is different, i am married, i have a kid and a lovely wife whom i am drop dead loyal to. Now i am also doing part time masters where i meet a girl whom i made friends with (not sure why?, probably coz she looks studious), now she's trying to get close to me (she knows my marital status), she texts me anytime of the day, if i don't reply in 5-8 minutes, i get a followup text and finally a call, she says "I'd regret losing you coz you are very truthful also i'd regret losing you coz, i donno why?", cares for me though i am a tough dog & over that i don't lie, no matter how hard it is i straight away tell the fact even if it'd cost me the relation. My wifey loves me for this, seems the girl finds the same reason as a magnet. The prob is, her bday is on 16th Dec (on my wife's request am gifting her a cellphone) & she wants just me to attend her party, she has specified, just "you and me" Am kinda...confused as to what should i do? I do look a bit sexy/innocent kinda (I aint bragging), turned down many proposals, keep getting them even after i have a tot...not sure why. As i am a toughie, i turn every1 down, in a hard way. I am really not the kinda guy who is into women, i just keep distance. -S P.S. - This Mobile Phone - http://www.alcatel-mobilephones.com/global/global/products/gsm/Messaging/OT-808-OT-808A EDIT - I remember doing this experiment some time back (1-2 weeks) As usual she texted me at 9.40pm asking "Hi whats up", i was kinda irked that day coz i had a tiff with my boss (thats a different story), well i red her text, i wasnt in a mood to reply and involve in a chat so i kept my phone aside & put it on "No notifications" mode (no vibrations, nothing) I was kinda shocked in the morning to see 20, yes 20 texts from her at an interval of 2-5 minutes & the texts were like -Hey what happened, why you aint replying? -Are you angry on me? -Please reply and tell me what happened? -Is everything ok? -I am really sorry if i have done something wrong -Please tell me what have i done wrong :'( (Used this smiley) -Please reply...i can't have my dinner Jesus christ, these texts literally made my day like, "WTF, are you crazy to text spam me?"
If you love your wife too much like u say then u should avoid her at any cost or tell her that this is not right & forget you forever but be calm Best of luck
Dang my ISP, suffering from loose motion have to rewrite the post again. Well i am not sure how will she react if i just go off her radar, if she does something stupid & leaves a note behind with my name, i am done for... I have these options -Ignore her calls/texts completely -Change my master's class timings (i can do that) -Avoid being seen -Delete her contact # (Obviously lol) -Completely off her radar As i said i am a tough dog to give up, i can defuse my emotions for her easily, the thing is She shouldn't do some stupid thing harming me or my family. Besides she makes remarks to me whenever she meets me "You looking handsome today" "You looking very cute in this shirt" "Dont keep beard you don't look good" "You're choo chweet" (Yeah pronounces that way" "I am leally cholly" (Same pronunciation) It literally irks me, coz i am not comfortable hearing these from any1 else except my wife altough i haven't told her that it irks me, i just don't react/show any expression when she says any of these. I only have 2 choices -Just answer her calls/texts without letting her realize she's off my friend list OR -Completely ban her off my life in 1 shot -S
Damn, thats a complicated situation. But we need to know more about herself and yourself before giving you advice. Information about her age, relationship status, ETC. And also, she seems like she don't have a bf. Get a friend of yours behind her so that she forgets you slowly. =)
I am 21.5, she looks like 21-22 (I aint a fool to ask her age) Yeah she is single, doesn't have a BF, never been in a relationship....Most of my friends are like me, they keep women at distance (Well, there are still a bunch of men alive who can do well without women, my friendlist is full with such boys) Another sh*tty news is she is insisting that i go for a lunch this Sunday (She is not from the city and wants to have traditional food, which a hotel serves in the town) Stupidly i had agreed to this way back in October when things were not so messed up & now i am kinda paying for it... Not to forget her birthday which is almost here... What else do you wish to know?? Even i am a bit shocked, that my wifey says "its ok, i am comfortable if you go out with her, i trust you" I know she trusts me, but i just don't wanna hurt any1's heart in this mess. God Help me... ~S
All right, be careful. Go for the lunch, make her happy and get back home. So your wife know her a lot? Its okay to befriend her, but i know she's annoying sometimes. Try to talk to her for the lunch telling her to stop disturbing you with the calls and SMS. he will understand with time and i'm sure she will keep her distance and limit over you. Kind regards, Yogesh
Well i really don't have the mood now to go for lunch. I sent her a text this morning reading. She doesn't know my wifey, she just knows her name and i have a tot. Recently i told her "I cant promise i'm coming on sunday, my wife may get offended, so its either i am coming or we are ending" Her immediate response was a call!! (Which i disconnected) She insisted that i let her talk to my wifey (I aint that stupid!) Hopefully i will infract her on 5th, if needed i will ban her on her birthday itself. -S
That might be the best option. But, if you want to do it gradually, just start talking about how wonderful your wife is, and how much you love your wife all the time when your with your friend. When she calls, tell her that your busy spending time with your wife. Distance yourself. She should get the message.
Seems like a plan Let me give her a 2 day ban (I am out of her radar for 2 good days from now) I don't know how will she react but i have loads of things to keep me busy, The only habit in me is "I cant lie" no matter how harsh it is! I speak the truth no matter if i have to part with the relation, its 1 of the reasons why wifey loves me. -S P.S. - Repped you.
so girls like that behavior she thinks that u r the perfect guy for her any how she would not want to loose u
Why don't you bring her home have dinner with your family? With your wife, your child, and since you said she looks "studious", i think that may be work.
Thats Damn True, atleast here... I am I Know I'll make a dialogue movie style? "Do i look like a fool?" Once she has my address, it's gonna be a anytime trouble for me, uninvited guest!... I'd rather not do that... I am leaving office for today, i know she'll text me tonight, let me do it the hard way. 2 day temporary ban to her...will post the result over here. ~S~
Damn, 20 text messages ?! Dude, if I were you I would straight away cut all ties with that girl, she's obsessed with ya, and that's not a good thing