Six months really isn't that long when you think about it... although I have a friend who pretty much believes what you do. He believes that if you're dating someone and haven't found out you want to marry that person within six months, then you have no business being with that person. I don't necessarily agree but you're right -- having differing opinions are what make everybody unique. If everyone were the same, it would be quite a boring world.
I can certainly understand that view, and agree with it to a degree. I wouldn't say I'd break up with someone if I wasn't sure I'd marry them after 6 months. But if after that amount of time, I knew I would never marry them, then I'd be gone. I refuse to waste time anymore hoping things will improve, or there will be some added "spark" later on. Another thing with me is if I get the feeling the guy would never make a decent father, I don't waste my time with them. I don't go into a relationship thinking I want to marry the person or have kids with him, but if I know I'd never let it go that far if it did work out for whatever reason, then I don't believe in wasting my time with them. Life's simply too short.
for me one of the big signs of whether im atrracted to a woman or not is her ability to give from herself to someone she isnt looking to get anything in return from. I myself have always HATEDDDD dting because its so phone and fake. 2 people showing themselves off in their best light to each other. Why not just hang out and get to know each otehr as friends. I see my friends acting as if they have just been taken over by aliens when they are talking to some new girl on the phone. Then when they see me treat her at first almost the same way im treating them , they think im weird( well i am weird but not that weird lol). I myself think that if 2 people are totally honest with each other that 6 months is way more than enough to know if they wanna marry or not. The smile says alot. I remember once i was on date with this gorgeous model, but everytime i looked at her i saw my bro there loooooooooooooool, she was very calculating hehehehe. Remember guys when your on a first date with a sexy gal and she is telling you how she had 2 boyfriends at the same time, DUMP HER FASTTTTTTTTTTT AND RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
I agree it's stupid to be fake when you start seeing someone new. I refuse to be like that. Unfotunately, it makes dating a lot harder. lol People get the best and worst of me all up front with no bs. They can love me, hate me, or fall somewhere in between, and it doesn't matter in the slightest. The problem is that most men I meet can't deal with honesty. They want coy and flirty and all the crap that comes along with it. Then, when those things wear off, and it's not fun anymore or they realize there's work involved, they lose interest. That's why I don't give it to them anymore (aside from when it's completely natural), although I'll admit I did when I was younger and too stupid to know any better. Being fake just takes too much effort, and quite frankly I don't have the time or patience for it anymore. And honestly I can only think of maybe 3 men at most who have done the same, by never putting on an act. It can certainly be frustrating.
I agree 100% but at least you never had someone that was interested in you set you up with their best friend, all the while she had her best friend try to turn me into an emotional wreck and in turn she thought i would turn to her lol. Its moments like these that make me really love the inner strength that comes with staying a virgin
lol Oh, I could give you some horror stories too. I doubt many people are really "lucky" when it comes to love... at least most of the time.
But Jenn... doesn't life mimic fairy tales?! Oh please, don't you dare dash my dreams of finding my prince charming complete with white stallion, a castle, and a fleet of chariots!!! Oh my gosh, that was almost too much, even for ME!
LOL pingpong123, i had just like the same problem with my first and the last gf, that made me quite stay away from girls, her boyfriend died by a car accident and stuff, she was taking deppression pills... I was really sorry for her and really loved her, then after dating like 2 months i found out that she were cheating me since the first week... Man i got so mad with girls that almost got my father's pistol and started a girl mass killing spree! But time passed and i don't care about it anymore... Well i still care because when i started dating her it was like a dream coming true. I started on the school and looked at her and though that she was way too much for me(really smart, likes the same stuff that i like, i could be a week talking with her non-stop), then after 1 week i started dating her... I kissed for the first time who i really liked, but girl's mind are so evil then i got heart broken! And girls already had asked me to a date before that, but i felt that it wasn't what i wanted... then when i think its the right time, shit happens! I should have dated all and be an average guy that just care about sex... Sometimes i think girls don't really deserve me!
Denise, lol Nah, reality is better than fairy tales if you find someone who's worth it. I'd rather have someone who can make my blood boil in an argument or disagreement, knowing we could talk out and get past pretty much anything, than some "prince charming" who simply agrees with me 100% of the time, does absolutely everything I want, and is essentially my clone in the values/beliefs department. None of that makes for an effective long-term relationship, b/c no one learns and grows. Wow thiagoo... a killing spree, huh? lol Hopefully you'll learn to cope a bit better as you get older, so you never feel that kind of temptation again. lol You remind me a bit of all of the drama and emotional rollercoaster that was high school dating. Ah... those were the days. lol Don't worry. It doesn't last forever... and I promise girls aren't all evil.
You know, I don't think I belong in California haha -- precisely because I DON'T want that DISCLAIMER: No, not every single girl in California is a blonde bimbo goldigger
No, but most have fake boobs and personalities. Man, I need to stop stocking Denise and Jenn. I'm finding all sorts of threads I don't want to get into.
I can see that. Plus, I said MOST MOST MOST MOST MOST. Okay, should have said many. I voted for you in the princess of DP poll.