Psychologists assert: despite the fact that the large part of the man population is approached to consist with the woman of the marriage and to have children from it, there is a specific percentage, which entire this consciously avoids. There is no, such kind of man by no means monks, they have normal sexual relations with the ladies of their heart, but in this case they prefer so that the latter would pass the night in their house not more frequent than one-two once a week. And, first of all because they fear emotional rapprochement with the woman, they fear the situation, with which it can remain in its house more than on one night, and already from this is tested the feeling of certain panic and discomfort. As far as the woman, with whom this man meets, is concerned, she, as a rule, is lost in the guesses apropos of that, why her dear man, being located with it in the close relations not one yr, proposal does not make with it. In this case it most frequently searches for the reason of a similar behavior of its friend not in it, but in itself: it can be, the form of its nose or breast does not arrange it; it can be, its loud laughter irritates it, while it can be, it once transferred deep sincere injury and now it is necessary time so that it would be overgrown... On the whole, it can to the old age rummage in itself, devise what is convenient; however, in reality reason lies not at all in it, while in the selected with it man (most frequently his age it crosses thirty-year boundary). But if to be still more precisely, then exactly in intimofobii, which it suffers, but even it does not surmise about the presence in itself of this diagnosis. Try to verify itself: suddenly you are also subjected to this ailment? There are several its most common forms. In the constant search Man, who suffers this form of intimofobii, after living of up to 30-40 years, continues to search for his ideal and to solidly believe that it will compulsorily meet it. Every time being met with the woman (but them in it it was great set), at some specific moment it begins to search for the nonexistent flaws in it. And which the most interesting, compulsorily finds; they do not in vain indicate that who searches for, that compulsorily will find. In the opinion of psychologists, who carry out this problems, a similar form of intimofobii is most promising in the plan of recovery. Everything depends on man himself and woman, who in the state will be soak to her man. Eternally suffering This man once very long ago, possibly, even in the times of his distant youth, obtained from the representative of the fair sex not the best lesson of love and since then seriously he were disappointed in the women. And every time experiences latent fear to survive its feelings again since then in its relations with excellent half of humanity. It is completely possible that to this man much more comfortably to exist from by this type of experiences, than with the woman actually existing next to it. But also this form of intimofobii, in the opinion of psychologists, is completely cured. Eternally young Man, who occupies this position, does not enter into the serious relations with the woman only because himself considers also too young. Moreover to it it is in no way compulsory in this case to be 18- summer youth. Too young it can be, also, into 35, and even 40 years (by the way, for the change of youth can pridti any another, not less sound reason - for example, then that it await the great matters and to it to there is no time thus far acquire by family). In this situation the man cannot disentangle independently, in this it will help only the specialist, at least because the entire ball of serious psychological problems hides itself behind all this. Lady's man Lady's man has on the life simply enormous quantity of dear women. Moreover every time, making fall in love into his sequential elect, he piously believes that already just she is that same, only and unique. However, as soon as the incandescence of passions it will begin to come to naught, lady's man here is thrown to another object of attention. In this case it is in no way compulsory, that a man of such type entire life will walk in the bachelors, completely no. It even can consist several times in the marriage, but in this case to continue its Marathon in the search for the sequential portion of adrenaline. To someone this can seem by strange, but this lyubveobiliye is also characterized by psychologists as intimofobiya. Casanova In contrast to the lady's man, Casanova is completely deprived of whatever that was even the least features of tenderness and romanticism. Therefore by it woman is considered not as the object of adoration in some defined (sometimes even completely significant) interval of time, but altogether only as sexual female partner on one night. For it the fact of the proximity (to the morning, as a rule, it Beza any regret from it it parts), is more important, than any there romantic care. Further one night it cannot glance, and therefore long durable relations frighten it panic ally. Although, certainly, not some of such giants of sex in this it acknowledges never. Experiencing the hostile feelings Such men (fortunately, their percentage is entirely negligible) not only cannot live together with the woman, they feed physiological aversion to any representative of the fair sex (you be it even super-beauty). For them the words "woman" and "monster", however it is strange, are synonyms; therefore such men most frequently become recluses, who quietly relate to the absence of next any skirt. In all remaining relations they can be the very dear, intelligent, brought up and thinly feeling essences... However, entire their finesse and sensuality is not intended for the monstrous individuals by the name "woman".
Did you write that? If so, you need to work on sentence structure. The point that you're trying to get across is being distorted by word combinations that are too technical and poorly placed.
@checksum no i didn't i found this and read it and wanted to share.. Its exactly describing what men are looked like in womens eyes "but ofcourse some parts are correct some are not... for me.."
yeah, I'm one of them........kids = broke. I have no desire to get married at all. I love money too much. I could never love a woman as much as I love money....
I would love to see those types of men in their 50s.... No family, no kids, nothing. Congratulations! Now, go spend your precious money on hookers, booze and Viagra until you die alone....... I can't believe there are people who wouldn't like to have a family, children...I personally would love to have many kids. What's the money for anyways..?
Wow, this is exactly what I plan on spending my money on when I get 50. Seriously, I would rather be old, rich, and alone, than be with a family and be broke, or in debt. If you marry a woman, she gets all old, and you get tired of her. Some of you here will probably post talking about "true love." What does it matter? You're all going to die anyway. With the high divorce rate in the U.S., marriage is a joke. You stand a good chance of losing 50% of your networth. Trust me I know, it happened to my uncle. He should be a multimillionaire, but he is in his fifties, living in an apartment, because his wife ripped him off, ran up his credit, brought cars, and took his house. There are some good women out there, but lets face it, most women are cash registers with legs. Yep, I'm one of them. I could care less about any woman on this planet....money is all that matters, and when you have a family, you have less of it. period. I've talked to guys who are married, and I can see the look in their eyes......they envy me for being young, able to save thousands of bucks each month, able to travel around the world and get sex from all kinds of women. They can't save money because they are married, and their family ties them down. Its all about being a wealthy bachelor. I want to be like Wilt Chamberlain, staying a bachelor my whole life and sleeping with thousands of women, never loving any of them. Its like Tupac said "MOB". Money is more important than women and family. You asked what the money is for? Security and financial independence. To be able to do what I want. I've actually done the research. Raising a child from birth to age 18 will run you about $200,000. Hmmm, lets see, spend that money on my family, or stay single and pocket the 200 grand.........the answer is pretty simple. Stay single and keep the $200,000 grand.
Looks like your research is horribly flawed. You are assuming that ceteris paribus, everything else held constant. If everything else is constant, then yes, keeping the money to yourself is a no-brainer. what about non-tangible benefits of a family?
So, is that what you think the family is only good for? Sucking up all your money?? How about making enough money both for yourself and your family? And how about marrying someone who wouldn't rip you off? You can be both rich and have a good family - There are millions of examples!! Yes, money gives your freedom and security and I don't argue with that. And yes, you can have as much sex as you want with all sorts of women but, at the end of the day, you're still lonely. Alone. Is that what you want? Don't you know what love is? Though I disagree with you strongly, I can see what your point too....
Well, the research may not be on the money, but if you stay single, you can save a lot of money over the course of your lifetime, and if you play the game right, most of it can stay in your pockets. The only benefit that a family has over money is love. I admit, money can't buy love, only companionship. I would still rather have the money. You made some good points. However, while it may be true that you can become rich with a family, it is easier without one. You can fully focus on your work, and you don't have to be held down. I'm not good at making money, but I can save it very well. The methods I use to save money are very difficult with a family, so I would rather not deal with it. Here is another thing. Without a family, you have less worries, and more mobility. If something happens where I live today, I can literally skip town overnight. With a family, you are basically stuck. I would rather be mobile, like water. That is one reason why I'm not even sure I want a house. I'm not sure what love is. Thats not a joke, it really is the truth. It is hard for me to love a woman. I can't trust them. I've seen too many guys get royally screwed. Besides, I'm basically a nerd. I've always had a hard time getting women, but I seem to be pretty good at saving/acquiring money. Once I discovered that money could literally buy sex from beautiful women(escorts), I decided this was much more smart and logical than dating and all that stuff. I've grown to love money more than anything. Not what it can buy, but the freedom and security it brings. I just turned 25 the other day, but I want to acquire more money, and I can't let anything potentially slow me down, including a wife and kids.
But, then you won't have kids, see? And what if that child turns out to be a billionaire like Bill Gates or a Hollywood star? (j/k)
If this essay was originally writen in English, it looks like it was by a non-native, and maybe that person should rewrite it in the native language and post it. It really reads as if it were translated by a machine. It would be nice to have the native language version posted here, that way maybe someone could translate it for us.
I agree with tesla. Women can't be trusted. There are good women out there, but marriage is out of the question. Marriage is nothing but a piece of paper that gives a woman total control of your money and life, it's simply not necessary. Soon as you get married, the woman gains an amazing amount of power over you. We all know what happens in a divorce. As far as children go, I'd rather just get a cat...maybe a dog but even that's pushing it. EDIT: Actually, I already have a cat, so I guess I'm all set