Spousal Abuse. Beating your wife/husband

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Hayastan Phantom, Nov 21, 2008.

  1. #1
    I live next to a guy who gets beaten by his wife. Often I'll see him walk out of his apartment, his wife slam the door and lock it behind him, and him drunkenly sitting down on the ground in front of the door for two hours, waiting for her to let him back in. I used to live across the way from multiple guys who yelled at and hit their wives, and I even heard them walking down the street discussing ways to beat their wives.

    Anyone else have to deal with this crap on a daily basis?
     
    Hayastan Phantom, Nov 21, 2008 IP
  2. powerlifer

    powerlifer Active Member

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    Prob best to call the cops and hope that the victims of this domestic abuse get enough power to leave their abusive partners.
     
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  3. Aquarezz

    Aquarezz Notable Member

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    #3
    Well.. glad it's not here like that, but better call cops or something... they know better

    Greetz
     
    Aquarezz, Nov 21, 2008 IP
  4. dairyman

    dairyman Notable Member

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    I have heard and seen husbands beating wives but it is rare to see a man being hit by his wife :p

     
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  5. ProxyBlaster

    ProxyBlaster Peon

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    That's why the law was changed in the USA to where if the responding LEO sees any evidence of physical injury he will make an arrest regardless of what the victim says. The old "I'm not going to press charges" statement from the victim went out the window....
     
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  6. nicky s

    nicky s Peon

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    +1 i think the same
     
    nicky s, Nov 21, 2008 IP
  7. joyfuldesigns

    joyfuldesigns Peon

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    #7
    There's probably more women out there beating their husbands than most people realize. I've known many in that situation before (of course women too) The guy's left in a bad spot also, what's he supposed to do in reponse? Its more acceptable in general for a women to defend herself, but if a guy defended himself, for many that would be unacceptable too. There's many resources out there for women to get help / shelter /safe house, but not for guys. Plus, I don't think men who are beaten by women bring it out in the open much, call the police, talk about it, etc.

    Terrible and damaging for anyone to experience it however.
     
    joyfuldesigns, Nov 21, 2008 IP
  8. justinlorder

    justinlorder Peon

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    #8
    Voilence doesn't slove any problems .
    Family violence is even illegal .
    The last thing I will do is to beat any of my family member. (Fighting with my brother when we are children is a exception. lol )
     
    justinlorder, Nov 21, 2008 IP
  9. ramakazi

    ramakazi Well-Known Member

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    haha, what a useless guy, unless she's really the man of the house, in size and behavious
     
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    ErikJ Peon

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    I suggest move people like that are hopeless losers and cant be helped they should just be shot in the head

    this is also a reason I will most likely get married since you are stuck with that person and if you divorce she takes half your stuff unless you got her to sign a prenup
     
    ErikJ, Nov 22, 2008 IP
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    mdvasanth86 Notable Member

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    911..... call the cops!!
     
    mdvasanth86, Nov 22, 2008 IP
  12. Snowball1

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    #12
    Beating your wife? that is "violence against women" and punishable by law. Beaten your husband?..hmm! that could be "husband abuse" and I'm not sure if that is punishable by law.. Anyway, the best thing you can do at this point to help the poor guy is to call 911 anytime you see him weeping out there..:)
     
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  13. Alan|AzH

    Alan|AzH Active Member

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    Agreed. Phone the cops. If the guy kills her tomorrow you're going to feel incredibly guilty for not doing something about it.
     
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    donlin Active Member

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    Thats really stupid, partners hitting each other. My wife and I have an agreement that if either reaches the point that we feel we have to resort to violence against the other, we split, one or the other will leave. There is absolutely no sense in such childish stupidity.
     
    donlin, Nov 22, 2008 IP
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    dljackson1 Well-Known Member

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    I agree with powerlifter above. My wife volunteers at a shelter for battered women (survivors as they call it). She says the best thing the victim can do is leave and find a safe place. Domestic abuse is difficult to understand if you are not or have not been in it personally. I don't understand myself. Just that my heart goes out to the victims of any abuse.
     
    dljackson1, Nov 23, 2008 IP
  16. victoriaphee

    victoriaphee Guest

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    That's good news. Most victims, even after turning black and blue, are still blinded by love to their husbands. Ans by not pressing charges, chances are it will happen again.
     
    victoriaphee, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    In some countries, wife beating is allowed. Only assholes beat females, though.
     
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    Although wives beating husbands is somewhat rare but the the mental torture they give to husbands is not so rare and is even more brutal than physical beating!! I guess all here agree with this...
     
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  19. buddywes1436

    buddywes1436 Peon

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    #19
    Lots of ppl say how do women beat men but it is possible. Its not really in a physical way more of emotional way. Ive never expirenced anything like this nor have had anyone come to me by it. But heard several stories before and best thing to do is to walk away. No need to take it from all those ppl and just getting hurt in relationship. u will find that there are more fish in the sea so to speak
     
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  20. victoriaphee

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    Really? I never heard of that. What countries allow that?
     
    victoriaphee, Nov 27, 2008 IP