Easier said than done, eh? Anyways, the best way is to pay people to advertise. I can get your link out there, I can help advertise. Drop me a PM.
I can provide you with banner or link ads over my forum at cheap rates Let me know if you are interested
are there adult newsgroups? you could get content from there. (see my post here: http://forums.digitalpoint.com/showpost.php?p=4373592&postcount=5)