Okay I recently got married in October. And my wife had a baby from her previous marriage. She's only 1 1/2 years old. So my wife and I kinda get in little arguments when it comes to how we should raise the little girl. This is kinda the question I've had for a while now. Whenever the infant cries throughout the night my wife goes in there and lays in the infant's bed with her. (her baby has a full size bed, really low to the ground so no-worries. ). I kinda have a problem with that because when my wife goes in her room she sleeps there with her for hours. I hate that because I in a way think this isn't how you train an infant how to sleep in her own bed without being spoiled, thinking that thats how its going to be. Now that the little girl is used to that she will yell for her mom in the middle of the night and want her to sleep next to her. I know shes only a year and a half, but it still bugs the crap out of me. Whats a better alternative to having her sleep in her bed without my wife having to sleep next to her?
he's a man, its not his baby, so he has no real bond yet, you can tell by the way he talks about her, more of an object taking his woman away from him. than a baby needing comforting and reassurance from her mom and daddy
lol.. Yeah I kinda agree with you Samantha. We have more of a bond then before, but it still doesn't feel the same as if it were my kid. I'm sure that attachment will grow.
I'm sure your not ment to sleep in the same bed with a baby, i'm sure it's one of the big things people tell you not to do. Although it isn't yours I still think you taking up the role of father is pretty damn good of you, I sure wouldn't be up for it yet. Well done mate
After reading the first 3 lines of your post I realized that you need to ask somewhere besides a webmaster forum. Come on man, this shit is about websites, servers, ideas and what knot.
Try a favorite teddy, when the little girl goes to sleep place in her arms in a cuddling position. Hopefully she wont wake up and think she already has the mother there... as for your insecurities , shit happens and you need to get over it and let it take it's course - think of it this way when she is older the mother is going to be wishing the daughter was still sleeping in her bed with her instead of others
Dude, there is no harder job in the world than being a stepfather. I know this because I have watched my oldest daughter and my husband for the last 15 years struggle with these kinds of issues. My daughter wanting me and my husband wanting me at the same time. He has been with us since about the same age your step-daughter is. The one thing that broke her from wanting to sleep with me (us) was when we bought our house and moved her into her own room with a door. I know that sounds silly, but the apartment I had been at before, her room didn't have a door and she thought this was a big deal. Try getting her one of those tents that go over the bed or something to give her some security and at the same time it won't allow room for your wife to sleep there. Good luck, it will be a struggle until she is grown but keep at it because it is worth it and after all, she did come from the woman you love, so therefore, she should be loved and cherished just as much as the wife. The little girl is an attachment that comes along with the wife so just be good to the both of them and things will fall into place later in life.