If I know my site has been checked by the goggle bot and other confirmation from other search engines besides goggle my site is listed would it be good to get a paid inclusion since my ranking seems to be so bad I can't find my site listings on my keywords doing the same effort the average person would put in to something like this? Is a paid inclusion only for sites not listed at all?
If your site is new and depending on the site you could have a long wait until you rank well on Google. I would continue to work on your content, incoming links, and other SEO junk while you wait to rank. If you are after immediate results then you can use Adwords but if you dont understand the system you are likely to loose money.
It takes months just to show up on google so be patient or buy clicks on adsense. Adsense will get your site on google right a way but you will ed up paying large bills. I think Adsense is good if your website is very targeted and has a good product to sell, else you will loose lots of money using it. Targeting makes sure you get the clicks you really want and dont have to pay $5 per click.