Is there any way of making it so the flash object on my page waits untill the page is loaded untill it starts to load because the large size of my flash is making the page take ages to appear.
Browsers create multiple HTTP requests, so the flash should start to load when it is encountered. Your HTML should not be large enough to be significantly delayed by flash loading. You could put the flash lower in your source and position it with CSS, so more of your page is loaded before it starts to hog b/w. Another option is to use JavaScript. You can use innerHTML to add the flash info "late in the game."
isnt there just some script that i can place on the flash which will stop it from loading untill the page has loaded ? like afterload or something like that