First time it loaded was slow (in fact I didn't let it complete ... I refreshed).All subsequent loads seemed to be ok.It is a bit slow but I have seen worse. Hope this helps
The logo is from an online logo generator by the looks of it. Can you go back and choose a smaller size, or reduce it, and it should make it more subtle and quicker to load. Or try cooltext.com, there you can make some nice logos with trial and error.
Take a look at the results from here: www.websiteoptimization.com/services/analyze/wso.php?url=http://www.findmatch.org You will have to cut and paste since i can post links . That will give you some idea where to start trimming the fat.
Yeah i use it a lot, that and the w3c validation tools. Not to hijack the thread but Amy you have a small flaw on your QEDQ site. Using firefox with autofill turned on makes the background of input boxes available to autofill yellow, so when i go to enter my email address your yellow font on a yellow background makes it invisible when registering. LOL you may run me off your forum on QEDQ i like it....