Hey Guys, I'm just wondering, what do some of you do when negative people try to bring you down? For example my parents have no faith in me with my web design company or basically in myself because they never have, they keep telling me I'll fail at it and a few other things. Thanks, Scott
Put a positive spin on it. I thrive on negativity. It just gives me more drive to prove everyone wrong. Believe in yourself, don't let others put you down and be persistent.
Well my Dad was furious when I was about 21 and he found out I was going to be a professional musician and go on the road... All I ever heard was "Cut Your Hair and Get a Real Job"... Ya gotta remember he grew up in a different time and couldn't understand why I wanted to do it... My mom wasn't so negative about it until the day I left... hehe Needless to say I did it, and traveled the U.S.A. for about 10-years in the 70's and played with alot of different bands and recorded alot of music along the way and continue to play to this day tho it's not now my main source of income... Well coming home to Ohio a few years back because I had been gone so long and wanting to spend some time with him because he was getting pretty old and after he heard some of the music we wrote and saw a few of the Live Videos I think he finally saw that letting me do that was really okay... Most of the time your parents really want the Best for You and sometimes they have a hard time understanding what it is that you want to do when they don't see it as being very profitable... Hang in there and just show them that you can do it...
Thats exactly what I do. I had a 'so-called' friend who laughed when I told him that I was moving to the states and he said that I wouldnt last a week. 3 years later of having a daily mental picture of him laughing has helped me still be here in NY. Make it positive by proving negative people wrong Good luck.
Get new parents? Failing that, go the "I'll show them!" route, where you use their negativity as inspiration to succeed so you can "show them whose boss!" Or somesuch.
The guy who invented FedEx was failed for this thesis (or whatever) on an express delivery business in college and was told it'd never work. What would have happened if he listened to them?
Man, that would piss me off. I would tell my mom and dad to go to hell! Then I would try my hardest to prove them wrong. I would also make sure that I don't turn out like them...bitter and negative. "F. you, mom and dad! You're supposed to encourage your kids and have (or at least show) some confidence in them!" (no offense to your parents by the way)
Well this has been going on since I was 13, my step father told me I wouldn't make a dime off my website, so I that day I went on and made a few hundred that month. Then I launched my web design business this past winter, he told me I wouldn't make anything, the day he told me that I went and made $1000 in a day off 2 clients and since then I've made enough money to make a living on my own with my web design business.
Well for the most part I would ignore the negativity and keep going at what i'm doing. I mean, who are they to tell you whether or not you'll succeed? If you're determined, willing, and some what intelligent you'll pull off most things .
Sounds like he's *Jealous of having a Step Son that is Smarter than he is* Scott... Just hang in there and make money then get out on your own and you should be fine...
When I left Winnipeg to assume a significantly better job in Vancouver, doubling my salary, my step father's goodbye was to berate me about a mortgage I had on a mobile home that I had up for sale. Since he had co-signed the loan, he told me he would pursue me through the courts to the end of his days if I did not keep up the payments and he was forced to pay off the mortgage. That was 25 years ago. I talked to him once on the phone after that -- where he immediately launched into an attack about the condition of the mobile home, which did not meet his standards. I talked to him a second and third time five years ago when my mother was dieing of lung cancer, at which point he and his wife once again started on about the mobile home. I dismissed them with a wave of my hand and changed the topic of conversation. I do not expect to see them again. When I was a teenager I said blood is not thicker than water. In raising my children I came to understand respect is earned and not an obligation. Families are made up of individuals, genetically linked, but otherwise entirely different people. As harsh as it may seem, you sometimes need to do move on from family members for your own good. Constructive criticism, though painful, needs to be heard, though not necessarily accepted. Critisim for the sake of criticism can be safely ignored.
Rude people suck. Especially parents-- Besides that- Those that have tormentented me the most have caused me to succeed. The best part is, the better off you are, the more you do feel like you need to say "I told you so" just live your life and be glad for those negative people that you rose above. It's taken me years to get this right.
Children skills and abilities can't so easily be Identified by parents. It is their friends and teachers who recognises hidden talents about them. One should not mind for Parents comments and not to blame them. Wish or Curse given by parents to their children will always cause good future. I never took my parent's negative comments so seriously. Jealous people ( friends) always try to demoralizes with their negative comments. We must keep them at bay.
Hey man I've delt with that. Perhaps they are threatened by your success. For example your Mother could be worrying that you'll find someone ( i.e. new girlfriend) else to replace her in your life, and your day could be worried that you'll replace him and he will not be necessary anymore. There are many ways of dealing with this, but if it doesn't get in the way of your success than dont worry to much.