This is what I have right now http://www.blogengage.com Godaddy 256 MB Guaranteed 1 GB Bursted Virtual Dedicated Bandwidth Quota: 500 GB Quota Used: 44 GB See that is not my issue! Many members are having issues getting the page to load so I need more memory? What should I do to fix the speed and page not loading issues? Also when I do an e-mail blast my server always goes down! It's so annoying to send 5000 e-mails and have all visitors getting page not found!
The guy I'm talking with at godaddy is saying 977 open http connections to my server from 89.149.194.249, which is based in Germany.
PhotonVPS-Jim given a good suggestion increasing memory may fix this issue. My suggestion would be if your site is running good go for dedicated server .
You need to optimize the services on your VPS, including MySQL and Apache. 256mb of memory is fairly low for a mysql driven site. I am going to assume that you have a control panel as well, and they can eat up your ram as well. First, optimize for what you have, then, upgrade if needed.