Need Help Optimizing A Website

I am currently working on search engine optimizing my website and need some recomendations from people on how to further optimize it for search engines.

My website is http://www.aspieweb.net

 

You can take a look at http://www.seochat.com, will learn a lot from there.

 

I would rather choose 'cre8asiteforums.com', where Kim Krause, Ammon Johns, Bill Slawski and many others have made the forum one of the most open and welcoming on the net.

 

Try to increase the backlinks for site.

 

Try to use your targetted keyword/keyphrase as the anchor text.
Try to build more and more backlinks.
Try to get your site listed in yahoo, dmoz and other authority directories.
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Also make sure to add your main keywords in your anchor text of your incoming links......and focus on getting links from relevant sites only.......

 

Read read and ready !!!!

 

read some articles at seomoz.org

 

Find keywords that have less sites listed in search engine results. Do not have same terms for every link to site. Get links from sites that are related to sites topic

 

Here all are saying " get backlinks "...someone explain how to get free backlinks to my pages....