okay, so i've been dating this guy for 2 years and 3 months now. he's lived with my dad and me for over a year now. his home life isn't that bad, his parents are just stuck up rich people that drink beer and wine every hour of the day. so he moved in with me. anyway, i told him from the very beginning that i wasn't looking for anything serious because i had recently just gotten of a longterm relationship, but you see from the previous information that he didn't follow that statement well. he's really sweet, but he has no balls. the other day, this creepy guy i hadn't talked to since the 6th grade, i'm a freshman in college now, called me, and i'm not sure how he got my number. gross. so my boyfriend answers the phone and he's all talking to him and whatnot, and says, "well i'll tell her to give you a call if i ever see her." okay, he's sitting right beside me, and some weird freakoid is calling me, but instead, when he gets off the phone, he tells me i should call him - that he seems like a nice guy. ...okay wtf? then he tries to deny that he even said it, or says "no i don't want you to fucking call him." all mad and such. confused? me too. anyway, i don't really care for him. but, he's been around for so long and we've been through a thing or two that a lot of couples i hope have never had to experience, which is why he moved in with me to begin with really. he really doesn't have much to offer and he's what you would call a slow guy, but, he's not like, mentally challenged or anything, he's just.. slow. but to the point. i've met this really intelligent, great looking guy who goes to school with me. he's 24, i'm 18. we just recently started talking to each other, not 'talking', but having conversation with one another. he seems really interesting and he's just, what i'm looking for. the only thing is, i don't know if i should go for it with this new guy or if i should stick with what i've got. should i try to pursue the new guy while still dating my boyfriend, or should i just end it with my boyfriend even if the new guy doesn't have mutual feelings for me? anybody that wants to reply is totally welcome. i don't really have anyone else to say this to because they've all already heard it before and i don't want to hear an "i told you so.." remark bullcrap. okay thanks.
did you make an account just to get help with your relationship? my suggestion is go with your feelings, while your still young....
lol, while that was the incentive, i decided to make the accout worthwhile and surf through stuff. so.. anyway thanks for your reply
if you are not happy and don't see a future with your current boyfriend then I think you've found your answer already
1) Learn proper sentence structure. Posting a massive wall of text like that is very unlikely to actually get anybody reading it. 2) Why the hell did you come to a WEBMASTER forum and on your FIRST POST ask about a relationship problem? 3) Welcome to DP 4) To actually answer your question - here's something you need to bear in mind, you're married. Yeah yeah you didn't go through the ceremony or anything, but legally you are commonlaw married (happens after you live together with somebody for 6 months). If you start fooling around with this new guy, you'll be committing adultry. Additionally, if you are so unhappy with the guy you've got right now why let it sit for the last 2 years? It seems like you are either: a) slow yourself, or b) stupid. Either way, because you've let this drag on for this long getting rid of him isn't that easy even if that's what you decide to do. Furthermore, if he is indeed living with you, what exactly are you expecting to happen when you dump him? Do you expect him to move out? Have you talked to your father about this (since he's paying for the place you live in it's really his decision legally). I'm not trying to sway you in either direction here, but you need to understand there is way more to this than just "do I dump him for the smart guy?"
Oh please, u obviously don’t care for the guy, why being stuck in such a hopeless relation when you are very young to be doing that. Welcome to DP, the best place in the world to ask for love advice. Beats kasamba & the psychics anytime.
Commonlaw marriage depends on the state. Besides did he move in with you or your father? Anyway, if you "don't really care fo him", then the choice should be clear. If you think the Commonlaw Marriage applies.... Kick him out on his can and go for 1/2 of his trust fund
It seems very confusing....but u need to think about future n ask urself that, who is ur best man with whom u'll spend ur whole life happily....just follow ur heart....its all about u n ur Life...others can think ...but u need to feel it... tc
a long and intricate post...as for the solution to your dilemma...stop your relationship before starting a new one...and you should go for it. you're so young, only 18...your life has just begun
Well the fact is you have to make a choice.. but how do you know this "smart" guy wants to be more than friends? If your not happy with the current guy then split out with him, dragging it on is only going to hurt him more (yes guys do get hurt too from breakups although for some reason women think they dont). This really isn't the best forum to ask for relationship help but we will try n help. As others have said your still young so you have plenty of time to sourt things out so go with what you think is best, the bottom line is: we dont know you well, we dont know the dumb guy well and we dont know the smart guy well so we cant make the decision for you. Hope this helps a bit, im no relationship pro.
Hey, thanks to all of you for all of your advice. Though i'm aware that this site was not particularly the best site to ask for relationship advice, i figured some third party figures with no personal interest in the situation could give a few good tips. by the way, i broke up with the dumb guy today. it all just kind of fell into place. and for anyone who's wondering, i went out to lunch with the smart guy, and it went pretty well. once again, thank you all for your empathy and effort to help out. have a great day/week/year!