My Suggestion and Feedback is you, please, help me understand why we have an above average amount of really mean people at DP. Hi, I do not always choose the right words, so allow me to explain best I can. -I'm not looking for advice like 'toughen up'. -I am trying to make a simple comparison and ask 'why?': 1) The only clearly mean forum I ever spent time at was dying out and the regulars attacked each other pretty heavy and often. Despite my off-beat, original, and experimental sense of humor, I never once got insulted the way I have several times at DP. 2) One year, I spent hundreds of hours at a very large "free speech" forum, the debates were very intense and interesting. I'm not at all racist myself, but the freedom of speech attracted dozens of hate filled people. Again, I never once got insulted the way I have several times at DP. 3) I made a decision months ago, DP seemed like a great place, and a few idiots would not affect me. I am affected enough to be curious, "please, help me understand why we surely seem to have an above average amount of really mean people at DP... ...or any opinions, why does my personality gather friends and avoid attacks at somewhat nastier forums, but get stabbed at a "friendly place" like DP? 4) Do you (anyone) want me to take my talents, passion, humor, and potential somewhere else because you have some kind of issues? I'm not promising to leave... Let me know, Happy Holidays
Toughen up! I don't think it's above average. There's just a lot of them because there are so many members. And they obviously take the limelight more than any other type of member. If it is above average, it's probably down to the success most members enjoy. Makes them more ballsy, more opinionated and more confident to speak up. Anyway, you know what to do if it bothers you.
No answers, just a few observations... I'm not sure that DP is more "mean" than other forums. I've had experiences so bad on other webmaster forums that I no longer visit them. One difference I've noticed is that on DP, the members can be cranky -- on some of the other webmaster forums it's the moderators who are abusive. DP allows political posts, which means that people are going to come into conflict. I run a technical forum. All political posts are summarily deleted. Everyone there is nice except for one grumpy Linux bigot. If I allowed political discussions... oy vey... I'm not going there. DP doesn't ban troublemakers very easily. That has two negative effects.* The first is that those people are mean (or, more frequently, just frighteningly stupid). The second effect is much larger -- it is that other forum members are mean to those people in an attempt to get those people to leave. Of course, that never works, because those people appear to see the abuse as "attention." Also, of course, because those people are not banned, they tend to gather here. We have quite a collection of moonbats here at DP. * Note: This policy also has many positive effects, but that's not the current topic.
Who's mean? I can't find any mean people on this forum Instead i found there are whole bunch of "nice" people here. The are so positive that they never point out something is wrong when something is wrong. They agree everything they see.. 80% of their post are "I agree", "nice post" or "your ass taste so good that i can't stop kissing it" Idiots are good. They make you think more because you don't want to agree with them
"There are mean people everywhere. :x Get used to it, its life." "Idiots are good. They make you think more because you don't want to agree with them." "We have quite a collection of moonbats here at DP." ^^^^^^^^^^^ I'm used to dealing with a wide variety of people, and most of them act pretty decent, even if they are full of anger. Thank you all for the good advice. I have 10.5" of snow to deal with, so I'm ready to leave again.