My girlfriend doesn't love me, your girlfriend doesn't love you What to do when your girlfriend doesn't love you anymore. My girlfriend doesn't love me. My girlfriend is falling out of love with me. Girlfriend Doesn't Love Let me first introduce this thread by stating the obvious fact that no relationship or physiology expert will ever state or admit: Girls are entirely different creatures, and are still a total mystery to man even to this day in age. This thread is targeted towards guys, us individuals who try and figure our women, but can't seem to. This thread is not made to understand women, but possibly help those individuals who are in a relationship and feel or know that their girlfriend may not love them anymore. Readers: Before going into detail about the subject of this post, I know that you guys (yes men) will agree with me about the above obvious fact regarding women. I honestly feel that women have an entirely different thought process compared to men, and thus are still new creatures to be explored and documented about in this world. If possible, before or after reading this post, for the benefit of all mankind (literally), perhaps you can submit a request to the Discovery Channel and/or Animal Planet requesting a documentary on/about women: its species, its thought process, and its evolution. Reader Disclaimer: Men and women alike, PLEASE do not take this thread as offensive or as sexist. This thread contains entire opinion, and thus, is entirely opinionated by its thread creator: Digital Point Forums user EGS. Although this thread is not intended to be offensive, it is also not intended to be funny either. This thread was created for the sole purpose of helping guys and giving advice, for the purposes of [hopefully the] better of understanding of women, and/or what to do when you feel that your girlfriend doesn't love you anymore. This post, again, is opinionated, written by a 19 year-old male, and does not portray or express the advice of a professional. Should you experience depression, anger, or any emotional distress, please consult the advice of a medical doctor, therapist, psychiatrist, psychologist, and/or a professional to help guide you through your relationship and/or your life. This article is not intended as personal consultation and/or advice, but to provide general statements and/or advice for the purpose of benefiting and helping those men who are struggling within their relationship. By continuing to read this post, you agree that you have read and understood the disclaimer, and will not take the author of this post responsible or make him liable, for anything, as what you read, learn, and do is entirely different from what others may interpret from reading this. My girlfriend doesn't love me anymore Are you in a relationship with a girl that you love and feel that your girlfriend doesn't love you anymore? Though maybe you don't want to possibly accept or grasp the friction between your girlfriend and you, this feeling is a reality that faces many men throughout their life of relationships. It's a horrible feeling when you feel that the person you love and care about, possibly the most, may not feel the same way about you [anymore]. It makes life difficult to live, it clouds your thought process as well as your confidence, and leaves you doubting the person you love and care about. So what are you to do when you feel that your girlfriend doesn't love you anymore? There's no solid professional advice besides - most likely - receiving depression and/or anxiety medication for this feeling. You have two main options that you will probably try to make with yourself: cope with it and hope that it's temporary, or try and fix it and have her possibly fall back in love with you. Either or both of these decisions that you make - even if you make a completely different decision - may result landing you into a minor to possibly major depression, so it's best that you do seek emotional and/or medical advice during this process. Depression does hurt, as much as you may already hurt. If you are already feeling depressed or even numb to love during this time, or even after, please take a step forward in your life and seek medical counseling right away for depression and/or anxiety medication - it can help you through your emotional distress and help you gain your life back. Besides the above two decisions you may make, you should really consider yourself before making any decision that may affect your life - physically and mentally. It's already obvious that by you reading this, you really love your girlfriend, and you don't want to let her go. You should also try to realize what she is doing to you, and how it is affecting you. You have probably heard the general advice of your family and friends regarding relationships: consider yourself first, don't let yourself get hurt, or something similar. Always think about yourself. Love is a powerful feeling and emotion. Just because you love somebody doesn't mean you can't love yourself as well, so just think about yourself before putting your loved one above you. Whether your decide to cope with it, or whether you decide to fix the problem, you need to realize that it's very well possible that the feeling that you're receiving [of not being loved] may very well be real. Don't fret, don't panic, and don't hate yourself. It's not your fault. And even if you made mistakes, realize that everybody makes mistakes - don't blame yourself. Your girlfriend most likely made mistakes too. Just be sure to love yourself as much as you love your girlfriend. Being that said, you realize that your girlfriend may no longer love you, and it's possible that feeling may never change and result in the termination of your relationship. The two decisions expressed above will not help you through your relationship, or help amend any problems in your relationship, by any means. You need to take a step forward and get to the bottom of the problem, and/or find out whether or not your feeling is a reality, and/or what may be stimulating it. Talk to your loved one Communication is a vital key to any relationship, whether that be a friendship or love. Your girlfriend and you are obviously no exception to this. Try and talk to your girlfriend about anything you may be concerned about. Be open and honest - this is the person you love, after-all. Express to your girlfriend any feelings or doubts that you may be feeling, and ask whether or not she may be doubting your relationship. It may not be easy, but find the courage within your heart to talk, and realize that what you hear may not be what you want to hear, but at least you will find out the truth and not be shocked or broken should the truth come out last minute unexpectedly. It's a good idea to have friends and family know about your feelings and/or your situation, so that you'll have a support system to fall back on, should things turn for the worst, or should you experience difficulty finding the courage to talk, or spiral into a depression. Talking may drastically help you fix your relationship, should that be what you and your girlfriend want. Know that you can't fix a relationship if one of the two people involved do not want amendment: it will never work (should your girlfriend not want you to change or fix the relationship). Talking may allow one to empty out various emotions, whether that be anger, guilt, confusion, sadness, etc. It's alway good to talk with your loved one, even if you aren't having a problem, to stay up-to-date with their feelings and what's happening with them. A relationship isn't based on the opinions or feelings of one individual. You love your girlfriend. Try to see what her problem is, and what she's feeling, before talking about yourself. By doing this, you're not only showing good manners, but you may also find out the problems without having to express your concern. No matter what though, be sure to be open and honest, about your confusion, your doubts, your worries, concerns, and your emotions! Support is also needed in a relationship as much as communication. Be sure to show support, no matter what, during communication for best results. It's also for the best in the effort to receive support back. This can flow well with the golden rule, can't it? "Treat one another as you want to be treated." That's a really good general rule of thumb to base a relationship on. Your girlfriend doesn't love you Well, you just read the bold scenario above. Whether or not you see this as a possible reality, or that it just became your reality, understand that you need to face it. It may not be easy, and it may hurt you like crazy, but you need to face the fact that your girlfriend doesn't love you. Why? You need to accept - not for her, but for yourself - that she wasn't the person for you, and that you deserve better. You deserve to be loved as you love, and to be cared about as you care. Again, it's important that you love yourself, especially now - you need to love yourself enough to be able to accept this truth, because if you don't, you'll only get hurt more. Don't try to fix what's already broken, and what's broken now is your relationship. What you need to do now is recover. It's probable that the relationship you were in wasn't just broken, but your heart was too. It's very important now to use the support system that you established for yourself should the worst happen, in which it did. Talk to your friends and family, and try to be as open and as honest with them as you can. You probably won't be as open and honest with them as you were with your girlfriend, but understand that you have a relationship with them too, and they love you unconditionally. It's a different type of love but a love of which you shouldn't ever get hurt by, and that's the beauty of it. Your friends and family - your support system - loves you. Know that now. They are here are for you during this time of pain and recovery. They're not going to give you the love you crave, but they will give you the emotional support that you need to get over this. You did nothing wrong and it's part of humanity that people fall out of love. You may not like it, not want it, maybe not even accept it, but it's the truth. And if you continue to feel broken, depressed, wickedly sad, or any emotion that typically spires you into a depression or puts you down, seek counseling and/or depression medication. Don't be embarrassed to seek help. You deserve to be cared about, as you have a lot of love to give, so let someone care for you as you've cared for the people that you love. There are a few common emotions that are linked to depression that will be mentioned, that you may possibly experience after your break-up or duration of facing the truth. Those emotions include, but aren't limited to, loneliness, sadness, and laziness that will be discussed within this article, all of which are linked to depression and may result from a break-up. Loneliness is a powerful emotion, one of which you don't deserve to feel or go through. You may experience this if you spent most of your time with your girlfriend, or relied on her as your company. Spending more time with family and friends will help you feel less alone and more wanted, and you deserve to feel wanted. Group therapy is also great - don't be embarrassed to go - as it will allow you to talk and express your emotions with people that are going through the same situations. Sadness is an obvious emotion that you may go through, but another of which that you don't deserve to feel. Love yourself enough not to be sad over someone that didn't deserve you. Depression medication may help you overcome this medication, as well as your support group. Laziness is one of the final emotions mentioned here, but one of which needs to be taken seriously. You need to read and check through the early warning signs of depression immediately. Should you link yourself to any of the listed early warning signs, seek consultation for depression medication and/or therapy. If you've already become lazy, and have possibly lost your motivation, then you are probably now already depressed, possibly severely depressed. Use the advice given in this article and talk with your support group to help overcome your depression. Medication will only help so much. Know and realize that you have to help yourself, and love yourself. Set goals for yourself, create to-do lists to follow, and/or exercise to overcome laziness within your depression. Contributing or achieving goals will raise your morale and really help you overcome your depression, as well as make you feel good about yourself, and you deserve to feel good about yourself. Finally, as almost everyone knows this quote, "there are plenty of fish in the sea." That's a fact when discussing its relation to relationships. There are billions of people on this planet, which means about half of the world's population are women. No person is alike, so that must mean that no woman is alike, which concludes that you will - no doubt - be able to find a girl that treats you right, loves and cares about you, and the girl that you deserve. It may take time, and it may take going through a few similar relationships, but it's a great possibility that you will find the girl of your dreams and receive the love and care that you deserve in your life. You need to love yourself enough to be able to set finding the right girl as goal, so that you'll achieve it. Try to find her, but don't tie yourself down - it's always possible that she'll find you! Take care and I hope that this article may help you. There are plenty of people in this world, and just because one of a few billion decided that you were too good for her, doesn't mean that you are worthless! It means you are too good for her, and that you'll find the right girl in time. Just keep searching! Written by Justice McCay of Game Monarch, LLC. Copyright 2009-2010. 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