is there a way i can get unhacked ? I had not upgraded wordpress & I think thats why they got in , I should upgrade but now i really need to unhack it fiestyflame[dot]com
Ask backups from your hosting provider. You should really update to latest Wordpress once updates go out. When WP team releases an update/patch/fix that means that the previous ones are prone to injections and other hacking bs stuff.
Exactly which version of WP did you still have? What did your hosting support tell you? If it was a reputable host they would have resolved this by now. They are supposed to keep a backup copy of all their clients' sites. What is the name of your hosting company? I would definitely switch hosts.
Install another wordpress with the same version and use the existing database, then upgrade. You have a sucky hosting provider right there :|