What do you think about it? What do you do when your spouse flirts with someone other than you? Does it make you jealous? Do you forbid it? I would just like your thoughts on this, please?
I think flirtation is a game we play, a dance for which everyone knows the moves. People can flirt outrageously without intending anything. I think it's quite normal for especially married couples to flirt. I don't think we would be normal if we didn't flirt. Just my opinion. The forum that I started about a year ago has many married people whom are members. I think it helps the relationship. Although, there are several on the site that are married and hide it from their spouse but whatever works for them. Everyone has different relationships.
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To be honest, I find the best thing to do is give a person a taste of there own medicine. My girlfriend used to flirt with guys loads, then I started flirting with two of her best friends, and go 'close' to them and she was so upset because of it, but when I said she flirted initially with other guys, she soon understood
There is a lady here at work that is married and is always flirting with the guys. Her fiance is just about to break off the marriage because she is always talking about kissing these other guys and doing other things with them. He found the emails a week or so ago. I can't say I blame him. Personally, I think you should be as faithful as possible. This type of mentality only encourages other thoughts to enter your brain. Ones that are probably unhealthy for a marriage.
I'll be honest if my boyfriend flirted I would be pissed off, I know he doesn't else i'd be wearing his balls for earrings right now. He feels the same, he's Turkish so that might explain a lot. In this day and age flirting doesn't seem to be harmless, it nearly always leads to something else.
when my wife has done this, I just turn around and do the same thing while she is around. She gets so mad at me for it, then when I tell her she was flirting so, I thought, I should also, she kisses my but for a week afterword. When they know that you realize what they are doing, it tends to change things. Flirting can be harmless, but allot of wemon don't get the fact that guys are only doing it to try and get in there pants, or if they do know, that makes it even worse, and the harmlessness of it is gone. To some extent I have to wonder if wemon realize what goes through a mans mind when they do such things. I know the thoughts that have gone through my mind at times is not good. This is probably how murder was invented, and it happens everyday in circumstances like this. 3/4 or so of all murders witch were done by the spouse, and I say spouse because it isn't always done by the husband. jealousy was involved. Just something for everyone to think about.
I'm not married but when past partners have flirted with other people, I get really annoyed. I turn round and do it to someone too, although then my partner would get annoyed and end up argueing. Wasn't such a good idea
I love to flirt but won't do it around my wife in regards to her feelings. I flirt almost everywhere I go, bank tellers, department store cashiers, women shoppers in the store, but its all only harmless flirting as I never make any effort to take it beyond that. I just love pretty women and theres scads of'em out there.
I must admit, the green eyed monster does come out at times =/ But when you have a gorgeous girl you kind of get used to men hitting on her. Part & parcel I guess. KP
I don't think flirting is being unfaithful as long as it's not hidden from your husband/wife. All marriages are different, no doubt but there are so many married people who flirt. I happen to like to flirt so that's why I started my own flirting forum. My husband is a member there and we have sooo much fun on there. Would I ever share him? OH HELL NO but flirting is so much fun!
I don't think its right, you have married the person you love why would you now want to go around flirting then you should rather stay single
Flirting when you are in a relationship could lead to more .. I agree that it is only ok if your partner is aware of it. My two cents ... I just don't see why people these days get bored of one person so quickly .. stay single if that is the case.
Flirting is not cheating. I am willing to bet that every single day EVERY married person flirts. Whether it be a wink or looking at someone's butt or boobs. Jealousy is horrible in a relationship. I would much rather openly flirt than wait until my husband turns his head and think, "Look at the ass on that man"! I guess everyone is different in that sense but I find it healthy and I've been with my husband for almost 20 years and flirting has never lead to anything other than that.... just flirting.
The reaction is all about trust. If you trust each other and the relationship is strong, you will not have problems. If you are too insecure about your relationship that jealousy rears up all the time, you should take a long look at the relationship. I do harmless flirting because it is just part of personality. My wife normally laughs about it. I do the same with her even though she does it very little. If someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat. All the jealousy in the world will not stop it.
I am not married but If it happens to me I would not make her jealous... I ll see she gets jealous in a month seeing with how many i flirt!