Is this cheating?

IMHO you need to break up first before you do anything.. Settle the first relationship then go with the next.. So you won't feel guilty about it.

 

Why would you mail a letter to break up with someone? If a person didn't have the balls to end a relationship in person, they shouldn't BE in a relationship to begin with.

I'm no one's cookie maker unless I say so, FYI.

 

I'm just thinking up other things that would complicate the situation. Everyone is saying you have to tell the other person or it's cheating, well when does it count as telling her? When you send the letter? When she gets it? What if she never opens it, are you together forever?


I've got some flour and eggs over at my place. You got the sugar?

 

I think you are over-analyzing the situation.

(What kind of baker would I be if I didn't have sugar?)

 

Yeah, defo.

 

well this is a fictional situation. There happens to be a similar situation that happened to me, but there are several important differences. These differences make me not look like an assh0le. But that's my private life, so I'll keep it that way. I'm just trying to find people's lines, where does it become cheating and where is it permissible. So i have to throw more wrenches into the situation.



pour some sugar on me?

 

I wouldn't consider it cheating as long as it was as soon as you spoke to your partner again that you broke up.

 

I'm a hardass when it comes to cheating I'm afraid... I don't tend to draw the line anywhere. Cheating sucks.

(Dream on! )

 

I'm a hardass on cheating as well. I'd go so far as to say my woman can't have any male friends, because it only leads to bad places. Its not that I would ban her from having friends, but I would question why she wants male friends.

(i'm dreaming of you)

 

wow dude that makes you sound like a bit of a control freak.. Would you drop all your female friends too.. I wouldn't thing that kind of relationship would last too long. Trust IMO is one of the key ingredients in a successful relationship and not letting your GF have male friend sounds like a lack of trust.. Just my 2 cents..

 

I agree.

If I had a partner like that I wouldn't have ANY friends at all... with the exception of one older female, all of my friends are males.

 

You had sex with them, so yes you have cheated.

 

I don't have the balls to START a relationship, and have never had one, so I don't know if I have the right to my opinion, but...

I would say it's cheating.

 

Yes ofcourse its one kind of cheating

 

what if the other person has been making you miserable for years. What`s wrong with moving on and who is to decide when the time is right. Shit, if I had some chick I`m unhappy with and another one comes along, I`m in that door and out the other. What should I do, give the other one a two week notice?

 

If they've been making you miserable for years and you're still with that person, that sounds like YOUR issue.

Why would it be the other person's fault you chose to stay miserable with them for that long?

 

but were you "on a break"

 

I hate people who say they want to "take a break."

That just means they're too wussy to say "I want to have sex with other people. I don't want to be with you anymore."

 

some girls will kill you for saying that,. Seriously. I rather not take those chances with someone I sleep next to

 

Perhaps.

But if you're dating a psycho axe-murderer type of girl... I have to say, you don't know how to pick them!