Totally agree with you. I just wanted to know more about my boyfriend and decided to move together with him. I think only if we find that we are suiable to each other, then we can get married. Many people just get married without this process, and find they can not get along well with each other after marriage, and get divorced at last.
It's a great idea. That way, you find out what the person is really like before you marry them. There's an old saying that goes, "You really don't know a person until you live with them." And that saying is true. Forget these religious lunatics who call it "shacking up." I'd rather live with someone before we get married and find out what they're really about, than to live together AFTER we're married and then find out that I can't stand their living habits.
Hi) i dont know is it good, i live with my boyfriend, i am totally satisfied, now i know that in future i will be able to live with this man, i know what i like and what i dont like in him and it is very good. now we deside to live for 2 weeks separately and it is ;(
Definitely Yes if she is comfortable with your decision of having living relationship. Also, better if you get unexpected surprises before the marriage.
Studies have shown that people who live together before marriage tend to take the relationship less seriously; e.g. if you happen to be in an accident and become paralyzed, the chances of your live-in getting sick of spoon-feeding you and taking off to Tulsa is significantly higher than a married spouse. Supposedly, these studies have shown that these effects of being less invested in the relationship continue even after marriage, if you lived together initially. Interesting stuff.
I think it depends on both parties. Some people think it's a good idea, some people don't. I personally do not believe in living together before marriage.
Living together before marriage is a bad idea. You have to get marriage before you can living with he or her.
My wife and me went through a period of living together before we finally got married too. I think its an excellent way to find out if you can stand each other's living habits.
To the people who claim that you have to be married first before living together: Why is this so? Why do you have to be married to live with your partner first? I'm a human, a person, and an idividual. I have free choice. If you feel that a man and a woman must be married before they live together, that's your decision for your life. You don't have any say on what I 'have to do' in regards to living with a partner and marriage.
It has both pro and cons attached to it. Pro - u get to know the person with whom u'll vow to spend ur lifetime. Con - Social acceptability factor - In India, this concept is still naive, generally the society does not accept this. But in the metro's, it's the in thing.
Its your life and its your decision to stay with him/her before marriage or not.And it depend on parents ans country you live.
A lot of comments here are good but others have clearly never lived with their partner. Living together is a good thing and having sex, if you are in love and committed, which you are if you're living together (typically) - is also a good thing, here's why; 1) Could you live with someone who was filthy, never cleaned the bathroom, left food out, etc? I couldn't. Living together for a time you see the real person, not just what they are like around you. 2) If you don't have sex you might find out you're into spanking and foreplay while he's into a quick vanilla romp. Like it or not sex matters in a relationship and finding our your husband/wife is a terrible lover on your wedding day is not something you want. 3) Living together you know how you handle finances. Bills and a mortgage and food costs need to be shared in a marriage; you need to experience this before marriage to avoid huge arguments about money. That is the number one reason for divorce. I could go on but those are the main points. PS - I've lived with my partner for 3 and a half years and we're currently engaged (as of very recently) - logistically we couldn't have gotten married sooner, and I'm glad we didn't miss out on this time living together because of a silly piece of paper.
For it will be a good idea because you can really know what is expected after marriage and then you have a decision further ahead before marriage that if she or he can adjust with her/his or not.
Statistically, divorce rates are higher among couples who lived together prior to marriage. It's more and more common these days, and almost makes sense with the way society has been moving over the past generation. But still, the statistics are against it; that is, if you desire to stay married forever.
This is simply a generational thing; which you kind of hit on but then backtracked with. More people are living together before hand now because it is socially acceptable; these are younger couples. Younger couples (<45) are statistically more likely to get divorced than a couple in their 60s - if living together first was still something frowned upon by people who are either freakishly conservative or religious nuts or whatever, and NOT living together was more common than living together prior to marriage, the stats would shift and those who didn't live together would be getting divorced more frequently than those who did. Long story short, it's a dud survey that is incredibly misleading to people who mindlessly believe statistics without considering why they are as they are. I could prove that 9 out of 10 cats prefer cheap dry food to fish and meat cans; it would just depend on where the bowls were placed. Anyway; if you desire to stay married, find the right person, know them completely and then decide if you can be committed to them for the rest of your life before getting married.