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Is it easy for you to forgive those that did hurt you in the past?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Gianni Palazzo, Jun 13, 2013.

  1. lesa mitchell

    lesa mitchell Member

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    With grace and wisdom you can let go of the hurt and pain in the right time.
    SEMrush
     
    lesa mitchell, Jun 25, 2013 IP
    SEMrush
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    elbertjacques Peon

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    Tt's better to forgive, no matter what the offense was. Give it some time then let it go.
     
    elbertjacques, Jun 25, 2013 IP
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    Forgiving those who have done bad to you is not so easy as it seems especially when someone close to you has done that because it hurts you from within.
     
    AAKASH BHANDARO, Jun 25, 2013 IP
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    traxport121 Active Member

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    #24
    It is never easy to forgive a person like that. A good idea is to let the time pass by and the wounds heal up to some extent. Then it becomes easier to forgive the person.
     
    traxport121, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    Spoiltdiva Illustrious Member

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    We can imagine it but that won't make it so. The world is not like that and never will be. In life you have two choices. You can run with the rats or get eaten by them. I learnt from an early age that life is tough and in order to survive, one needed to learn to be tough.

    So the choice is yours, in the army when you screw up are you forgiven? Don't things run smoothly in the army? Everything is so black & white, simple. They don't bother with the concept of forgiveness because it's a sign of weakness and that won't work if fighting is involved. In life we will always need to fight, that's the way life is.
     
    Spoiltdiva, Jun 26, 2013 IP
  6. malky66

    malky66 Acclaimed Member

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    Why the hell do indians call everyone "Dear", it's so patronising and annoying
     
    malky66, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    malky66 Acclaimed Member

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    Don't tell me what i should or shouldn't say, i see it constantly on the forum, Indians in general call everyone "Dear", it's patronising and irritates the f*ck out of me.
     
    malky66, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    webdesigner2979 Greenhorn

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    #28
    You can neither forgive nor forget such people in your life.
     
    webdesigner2979, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    Spoiltdiva Illustrious Member

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    Malky here you are showing everyone your furry little ass, but you are offended by the word "dear"?:rolleyes:
     
    Spoiltdiva, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    More irritated than offended it's incredibly patronising...what happened to Shayla Ruby..another dupe account no doubt.:rolleyes:
     
    malky66, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    #31
    Forgiving those who wronged us is to forgive ourself. It's our own undoing if we keep thinking of the enemy who hurt us.

    It's being in control of ourself, the situation and our future.
     
    Jeffreyw, Jun 26, 2013 IP
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    Preventing others from hurting you by deterring them, *is* taking control of ourselves, our situations and our futures. How do you deter them? By being so vindictive that they dare not try and harm you.;)
     
    Spoiltdiva, Jun 27, 2013 IP
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    It isn't so easy for me, especially given that the people that hurt me in the past tend to want to continue hurting my in the present, all while saying "get over it". No, I don't think so.
     
    ViolentAJ, Jun 28, 2013 IP
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    #34

    Well, if you get a "dear" then you are lucky. Me they call either "mam" which I can live with, but some even call me "sir" in skype. I have a worldwide known female name and a similar pic to this profile pic here and they still call me "sir", what does it show about them? Or perhaps I'm too masculine :D

    Sorry about this off topic rant..
     
    syda, Jun 29, 2013 IP
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    It is more important to forget and forgive. It is easy to forgive as forgiving does not assure forgetting. I may forgive someone for the wrong doings in the past but keep on reminding the doer of the same mistakes in and out suggesting that I relieve myself from the burden and inflict pain on the other through an indirect revenge. When I forget about the past I let go the feeling of taking revenge in any form and I forgive him/her for the wrong done in the past. This is difficult but after a while I feel elated.
     
    Heer, Jul 3, 2013 IP