The last time i seen my mom was back in 96'. Since then, I havent heard from her since. I just want to know if you all know any sites that provides accurate information to show where there whereabouts are. I've tried one thing online called Net Detective, and right now it sucks. I did a self check, and it didnt even pull me up. Sigh... Anyway, if you guys can help, that would be great and i dont mind givin you guys that help out most with info some rep. I've tried before, but gave up since i was so young then, im 20 years old now and each day i look at families with Moms it kills me. All im askin for is help. Please help!
Hey good luck with this. That's a major thing not knowing where a parent is. My dad died when I was 14 but I hadn't had much time with him from about 7 so I can appreciate what a hole it leaves in your life. A good start would be collating what you do know, such as social security numbers, birth certificates, medical records etc. Have you been able to track down any of your extended family on her side. If not, and your surname is distinctive, it might be worth phoning every single one until you find a match.
So far i've seen some matches online that show a different last name but has an associated name which is my moms actually name. So thats pretty tempting to purchase that one time, but then again, i dont want it to be non-current info ya know. So far, the only thing I know about my mom is Full Name Age (just found that out today with a search) Nothing else i know, wish i knew her SSN, ugh.... Anything else.
I get the feeling you'll be purchasing alot of mismatches - but that's the cost of doing the search. You won't be able to afford not to alot of the time. Do you still know people who knew her?
I know nothing about her friends right now. They either have moved or whatever. I mean, this was back in 96' i was like 10yrs old. Dont know much about her anymore
I'd try some of the support agencies too. As a Mum I can't imagine walking away from a 10 year old so I'm guessing she must have had some troubles. You may be able to find a doctor, social worker or shelter who might help you - privacy laws withstanding.
I'll see what i can do. Long story short. Dad was in army, he came to visit. Mom drank a little bit (but wasnt a drinker) they both argued over me, and she said the last words i'll never forget "Get out! And take the kids with you" But i know it was just the drinkin that got her like that, i love my mom very much and i know she knows that.
wow this is bad., Good luck with your search., do you remember where your mom worked?., or do you remember where you stayed with your mom?., why not ask your dad about her?
I know where we stayed at, and im here at that very location only in a differnt county. I went back to the place we stayed at and the house was still there. The place was trashed, broken into, spray painted broken glass etc. Horrible. I asked my dad back then, he said he'd help, but i dont think he wanted to, havent ask him much now, dont really want to but i think i'll bring it up to him again. Oh, i never knew where she worked at.
Oh man. Sorry to hear about this. I hope that you would be successfull in your search. Your location shows Texas and I live in India. So I am not worth any help. But I can just pray for the best results.
^Thanks the support is very appreciated. I had this whole ordeal closed in for so long, just never took the time to realize what i was missing. I mean, i did, just that i know i wasnt tryin my hardest. I will try my best!
Yeah man. Try your best. And never ever give up on it. It is the most important thing in life. For example wouldn't you work hard enough to get near your goals? Consider this as something like that. Do some research. And I would also advice you to earn hard along with it. I think with money major problems can be solved. You can give advertisement in TV, Newspaper and radio about her. There are many ways. I think if taken seriously you can track her in less then a month. Thanks.
This is just an idea, you could get in touch with the army. They would have your Dad's personal records and these might shed some light on his relationship with his wife, her whereabouts, other family members etc. There might be some hurdles to overcome in terms of obtaining personal information, but if these problems happened while your dad was in the army they would have some sort of responsibility for his family members.
Yea he said he contacted Red Cross, but they couldnt do anything, which i think he was lying back then. Just sooooo much has gone by and its all crumpling down on me. Sigh...not sure if i can do all this anymore, its tough. Its been a tough life and a month. Wow....
I don't know how old you are, and what kind of financial situation you're in but in a case like this you may want to look into getting a private investigator who specializes in this sort of thing. Somebody who has experience in this could probably get her SSN, info from the army, records of where she last lived, etc If you don't want to go that route, then how about finding the owners of the property where you used to live and see if they have any idea of her forwarding address. Then track down that address and see if she's still there, and if not do the same. It's a long shot but in situations like this any little tidbit of information may just get you where you want to go. Good luck on the search, and never give up! Hell she may just be looking for you too.
This could be a long shot; but if you know the town where she grew up, and what high school she went to, you may be able to find her on Classmates.com. http://www.classmates.com/ If nothing else, you may be able to contact people, who would have graduated that same year, and ask if they know her. She may still be in touch with people she went to school with. I think it's worth a shot. Good luck!
I'm pretty sure that the army doesn't just hand over personnel records.. And you may not be able to hire a PI... First things first... Tell your dad that you're interested in finding her and you want to look for her... There are some things parents can't tell a 10 year old (especially right after the occurance), but would be more capable of telling a 20 year old... He will be your main resource b/c he will have her SS# (from the wedding certificate at least), her family, and other stuff.. Even if he hasn't kept in touch with them it's a start..
Yea thanks people, not to financially supportive just yet. As far as the site goes (classmates) she didntgo to school here. Shes from Korea, so thats out of the water. I'll just have to search, im going to call my dad later on today and see what he says.