Well, a little digging shows she was arrested in Gilmer County Georgia for: Computer Fraud (Felony) Theft by taking (Felony) I did computer related investigations for a law firm in Boston for years. You are correct with respect to the expense. You will easily spend $20,000 on one. It seems very unlikely she would be arrested for these charges because of an e-mail. There would have to be physical evidence of the crime to get a warrant. She's better off spending the money on an attorney that can plead her out. A trial would be expensive and the chance of a not guilty verdict seems remote.
The plot thickens...you made no mention of being "stalked" in your original post and replies. Can you elaborate further?
I was in another town, and I have proof. We also have proof that he sent the email from my email address. Ta-Da!