How to heal from heartbreak?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by jowey, Aug 18, 2007.

  1. #1
    Hello. I have been subject to the terrible event of parting. How do you get over losing the most beautiful girl in the world? So far, I have dwelled on it too much, clinging on, believing there is still hope. I know that there isn't though, and thats the worst part. Now I remind myself of the quote, whose owner escapes me, as does the exact wording:

    "when something happy ends, a door closes, but a new one opens. Often, however, we stare at the closed door so long, we don't even notice the newly opened one."
     
    jowey, Aug 18, 2007 IP
  2. ourktm

    ourktm Active Member

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    I went through the same thing a couple of weeks ago. I know exactly how u feel.

    To go through your heartbreak keep yourself busy, spend your time with friends/family, try to forget about her/him, go drinking sometimes:D and remember that time heals everything. And you will find more beautiful girls than her in the future.
     
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    Fedorpheux Active Member

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    Yeah, time itself is the best medicine for this kind of thing, in my opinion.
    If you think about it, there aren't really any people that, on their deathbed, say something like "man, my life would've been so much better if that one guy/girl didn't dump me."
    Life goes on...
     
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  4. jowey

    jowey Peon

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    I suppose. I just always thought we would be together forever... Change is weird. In just one year im off to university. My sister goes in 2 weeks. My dad just got a new job, everything is different.
     
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    Fedorpheux Active Member

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    If there is one thing that is constant in life, it is change.

    Honestly, I really hate that saying for its cheesyness factor...but it keeps proving itself true over and over again...
     
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    bloggingseo Active Member

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    You will be fine, you are going off to university soon. You will meet new girls and have lots of fun and enjoy being young. No worries about this lady. you will meet new women and have new adventures. Cheers and have fun.
     
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  7. jowey

    jowey Peon

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    Yep, thats true enough. I think the main thing to remember is that how our life goes is, in the end, pretty meaningless, so you just gotta accept what happens and realize that it isn't a big deal, no matter what it is.
     
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    AlTeC Banned

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    #8
    I had two times in my life.. and now I am in safe position.. don't know what comes or happens tommorow.

    I suggest you to watch more and more comedy movies and listen to happy songs. Mostly try to keep yourself busy.. and that will work just perfect.
     
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    find another girl/woman... and focus your mind to your new girl...you'll forget your old memories...
     
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    It takes time before it can be heal.. For now your in denial stage, then acceptance and forgive
     
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    Get drunk, get really really drunk, Thats as long as your over 18 if not then well drink lots of milk :)
     
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    pray, keep your self busy, and find your self comfortable and happy..
     
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    I went through it last 4 months ago. it depends on the person who broke up with you, if he/she is nice, you need time for help. But if he/she is bad, much easier, think only bad things about him or her.
     
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  14. Jerlene.net

    Jerlene.net Prominent Member

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    You get over someone by getting under someone else. No joke.
     
    Jerlene.net, Aug 18, 2007 IP
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    No matter what you do the only thing that heals is time.... Some people takes years.. some people it takes month. But the most important thing is that you start finding someone else now...
     
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    How about manning the fuck up?
     
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    Jerlene.net Prominent Member

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    ha That helps.
     
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    do your best to focus for something else. ( e.g make money online, dating other girls, etc... )
     
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    She does not deserve you. Stop nannying and do something for yourself and someone who is with you. Why you need such a person with you? She never was on your side? And you know that all of that was mess and big stress for you. Respect yourself more in these moments.
     
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    All these are great suggestions, But i still prefer to get drunk. maybe thats just the Aussie chick in me
     
    selltrib, Aug 18, 2007 IP