hello, i have a problem and am looking for advice on how to best handle this situation. my mother has trouble paying her bills and just got her car repo'd a second time. i will have to drive her to and from work and pay to retrieve her car. she needs to keep her job. she had her hips replaced in august. she claims her medical bills is what puts her behind. she has a simple life - just a track phone, no cable, no internet and keeps her heat down. one issue with her life is she has too much shit everywhere being a hoarder. she did not contact me both times she was behind on her car. maybe her pride got in the way? she needs an infusion of capital to regain her footing. if i am going to invest in her failed business model, what should i demand out of the deal? her finance books to manage her money? ownership of all her crap so i can throw it away? if i do take over her finances then she will be become dependent on me for money like a child and thats not something i am looking forward to.
If you pay off her stuff, take possesion of it. Lay some ground rules and play the parent if you have to, that's what I try to do. Be loving but stern at the same time (if that makes sense). God bless. P.S. It's easy to get angry about it, but maybe something good will come of it all, (like her being more humble, responsible). If she learns her actions affect others, sometimes that helps.
I would have to agree here, sometimes acting as the parent is the best, and just remember do it in a nice way she still is your mother and she still has her pride to keep. Good Luck and I hope all turns out for the best.