Hi I'm new to this forum here -just joined It's actually not a very relevant discussion I'm only asking because it's in general chat section. I want to know others experience on this subject. I really like doing online business and have been freelancing for 2 years now. I really want to grow in this field but sometimes I feel my family is coming in the way. I live in the same house with them and it's a hostile environment. My mom is suffering from chronic depression and my sister had a broken marriage - my dad is retired and in general, the mood in the house is gloomy. I can really feel the "biting wind" in the home environment and it upsets me a lot when I want to begin work, think "new" ideas- I'm a happy-go-lucky kinda person in my earlier days I was known in my circle for good humour and cheerful disposition. It's just that the attitudes of family members is leading to daily conflicts and it greatly upsets my plans for the day. In the end, I'm left to cursing myself around, "WTF? Why did I do it so badly?" There's always a feeling of non-fulfillment. As much as I love my family to bits, it sometimes feels like I'm suffering them. I do wish to change my present dwelling but it's not possible for another 1 year because of some bad credit which I got to recover and other financial problems. I'm rarely upset by financial stuff as I said I'm of the happy-go-lucky disposition, "money comes money goes" doesn't upset me at all. Life is about moving on. Any tips on handling my irreconcilable ever-unhappy family. I choose to ignore them as much as I can and stay in my room and blast some music (watch youtube) when things go ugly, go out with my friends occasionally but due to the nature of my work, I really can't afford to go out too much and have to spend a lot of time indoors, in work. -- WHENEVER I HAVE A TRYING DAY WITH MY FAMILY, IT REALLY UPSETS ME FOR HOURS
I'm really sorry to hear that hope things turn around for you soon. DP is a good community and you will soon have a lot of other things to think and laugh about .
Thanks it seems a lot more relaxed place than another website forum called geekvillage - also this place seems to be more informative - I like the "feel" of this website - the green background and easy-to-use features
Sorry to hear about your situation, have you tried talking to them about it? How about taking the whole family to counseling?
you're not alone. The feeling of uncertainty and depression is very very common. People feel a need to live the [insert country name] Dream - which often involves making lots of money, living in a very large house, having every technological device as your neighbours, having the perfect looking spouse, going on lavished vacations, having a perfect well-balanced nuclear family with 2 children, political power and a complete sense of satisfaction and self-contentment. Of course achieving all of that is impossible - and so depression sets in. From what I've seen, I think this has a lot to do with the fact that as animals/organisms - when we no longer have to worry about just surviving (finding food, building shelter, etc) we're left with plenty of time to judge and criticize ourselves - and ponder on why we're not as successful as we could or should be. The solution is not prescription medicine, as most doctors would recommend, but in re-evaluating what is really important to you. Take pleasures in the things you enjoy doing - even if they don't lead to anything productive towards making that pile of money, or buying that large house, or getting that perfect spouse..