How many ppl belive in arrange marriage?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by sportscrazer, Nov 25, 2008.

  1. #1
    When i c ppl doing arrange marriage i got surpirsed..
    How can one guy decide to pass his whole life with one girl only after one meeting?
    is it realistict?
    wht u guys think about it?
     
    sportscrazer, Nov 25, 2008 IP
  2. digitalduke

    digitalduke Notable Member

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    Sometime there is one meet only and sometime there is more than just one. It depends. I don't think arrange marriage is surprising. It is more common in some countries where they live happily ever after. Like you said how can a guy decide, but in some places, a girl not even get chance to decide. So it is like tradition and culture thing. :)

    Besides, IN arrange marriage, guy and girl will fall in love eventually. :)
     
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    bigmac_lfc Peon

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    I'm sure there are many success stories from arranged marriages but in my opinion people should make the choice themselves but then it's different in every culture so that's just my opinion
     
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    I would like them if I was the one doing the arranging. In all serious though I had a Cambodian friend who's sister was married through an arranged marriage. The only hang-up was the gifts to the parents of the girl from the family of the husband.
     
    siteseller, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    I don't like arranged marriage - parents choosing partners for their kids is wrong, especially when the marriages sometimes occur only for political reasons.
     
    shantanubala, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    kraftzy Active Member

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    It depends... and knowing the person well isn't the only req for happy married life. I have seen couple getting married after years of being in love and then split up within few months of marriage ..whereas there are couples who had an arranged marriage are happily staying together for long time ... what i want to say is that knowing the person well enough doesn't gurantee u a happy married life .. so I frankly don't see much diff btn arranged marriage and love marriage
     
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    I understand that the divorce-rate arising from arranged marriages is less than half that of other marriages. Surprising but apparently true.

    I suppose it might be partly because the cultures/religions that go in for arranged marriage are also opposed to divorce? Not sure about this.
     
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    I belive in love marriage but unfortunately my parents belive in arrange marriage :(

    DON.
     
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    Political reasons??? :confused: how you mean?
     
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    I don't buy any of it. For me, a mature individual should be given the choice to decide what's best for your own self. I'm glad my parents never placed this type of restriction on me.
     
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    I am not sure if it would be a happy marriage .
    I believe it is a problem of probability .
    Some are happy marriage, some are sadness .
     
    justinlorder, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    Ah, my kinda topic :)

    My marriage was arranged. My mom met my wife back in June '06. She said I should meet this girl and marry her because she's a great person. I went to meet her in Cambodia in August '06. The next day, I got married - only having met her the first time a day ago.

    So far, we're going on 2 years I don't regret it :) and I'm happy with my decision.
     
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    #13
    True love my friend happens at first sight..
    so ya for some it works..
    i guess u never felt in love at first sight...

    trust me when u meet someone like that, then marriage is just a word you would even die for her..
     
    ErnestHemingway, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    i think arrange marriage is everyones dream , if this marriage goes into fun and happiness, i like it, because this marriage is fraught of blessings , family members and their love, if anything goes against it, they wil come and fight together, so love marriage is true but sometimes they r lack of something, but sometimes it comes true, well. and arrange marraige in baised thinking or happned intolerance wil be hurt someones.
     
    mahendra rajeshirke, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    #15
    Parents always think for well of their children.
    I think mixture of both is good :)
     
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    #16
    It is not only realistic but most practical and successful. If you study the rate of divorce you will see, it is least among arrange marriages, :D not love marriage, where you claim to know the person you are getting married but in reality it is not.
     
    drjupitor, Nov 25, 2008 IP
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    I don't think about that as possibility for me or anyone I know.
     
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    Not me, but I wonder if there is a web site to turn a profit from that?
     
    The Club Crawler, Nov 26, 2008 IP
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    #19
    Love is the power that will make a marriage lasts until death. We can't really say that arranged marriage is bad since there were those who were married with long planning beforehand, yet they ended in divorce.
     
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    #20
    Never underestimate the power of faith. You never know...
     
    dmi, Nov 26, 2008 IP