Read the siticky at the top. It can take from a few days to a few years for a review for a possible listing, we are not a listing service. No you will not be told if your site is still in the suggestions pool, used or not used.
The wait could be immediate (the site gets listed by an editor without being suggested - 50% of the site that get listed are listed this way) to never (the majority of sites submitted are not listed) .... I recall reading somewhere that of the sites that are submitted and get listed, about 50% of listed within 3 months --- the other 50%....could be a few years.