How you keep working for yourself after someone has died that lived with you.. I'm a writer.. I don't even want to look at or do anything all I want to do is cry.. Advice please?
Maybe you should cry then? Grief is a process that you need to go through and if right now all you feel like doing is crying then that's the stage of the process you are currently at and still need to work through. As long as you remember the above, to get yourself going again, try setting yourself tiny little tasks - 50 words, 100 words, 200 words, whatever you feel you can do, and if you happen to be doing it while blinded by tears then at least you did it, right? Just don't forget that it's okay to feel what you feel. Give yourself permission to do so. I'm sorry for your loss. Truly.
Cry if you feel like crying. Stop working and try to overcome your sadness. Go outside and talk to anyone who can make you feel better. Talk to your family and dont come back into working if you are not feeling well yet.
Just cry it all out. You'll feel a bit better afterwards. I'm really sorry for your loss. It's going to be hard and tough at first but it always comes down with how you accept it. Understanding why it happened is most important before you can even accept reality. Would you rather get all depressed forever rather than try living life for your love one's sake? You may not bring him/her back but the least thing you can do is to continue living for them.
Death of a loved one is the most horrible thing that can happen . It will be extremely hard and painful period . Cry out the pain , but don't let it ruin your life . If you're a writer put that pain into words . Honor you lost one by writing about him/her . When you feel that the pain is to much to bear go to a park or some other green space and mourn . If you're a Christian pray for your lost one's soul and go to church , talk to the priest . If you're a non-believer cherish his memories make sure that his life's work won't turn into dust soon . Get family & friends together commemorate his existence . When a human being dies his dream and all that he is dies along whit him . All that is left behind are his loved ones . We sacrifice ourselves so that our loved ones can live , love and smile . Think of what your loved one would have wanted you to do . He would have wanted you to be happy . Keep that in mind . And take baby steps away from the pain that tears you apart . Like McFox said you must take try to do small task until you can be back on your feet . Along whit this few , weak words please accept my sincere condolences .
Why would you want to forget a loved one? That's just plain rude. Accepting a death of a loved one is much better than trying to forget him/her. By forgetting a death of a loved one is the same as denying that he/she ever existed and those memories that you've shared with the person are nothing but dreams. I also lost a loved one years ago but I never tried to forget him, he was my favorite uncle and the memories that I have shared with him are the same reasons why I should live on so that my nephew could have an uncle that can be with him for a very long time.
Let it go, cry if you want. You said you are writer, maybe you also can write down your sadness, a poem, diary, anything, just let it out.
Thanks for the kind words.. For one I did write about my feelings after it happened of course. And lately I've just been doing minor work... like researching stuff and just writing whatever comes to mind. I don't plan on forgetting my grandfather, that would be hard to do and it's difficult to even think about forgetting him. I don't cry too much it goes up and down when I remember things.. Thanks again for your kind words. it really helped.
Unfortunately, life is cruel, sometimes it doesn't leave us time to grieve. Though, I suggest, just cry, have a good cry, I know that won't help entirely, but it will allow you to let it out, instead of bottling it inside and having it bother you. I would think that writing would help you. Take your mind off of things. I'm sorry for your loss, I do hope you find a way to deal with that situation.
if you don't have what it takes to get over it and move on, you are too weak, maybe you should go with the person who died?
Everything will come to an end, Please remember it. No matter you are you will gone someday. So... Use you like as what you want.
If you feel relief with crying then do it but you should try to come back to normal life as soon as possible
How about you go there ? If you have problems getting to the destination give me a call . I'll be delighted to help .
WTF is wrong with you, Mobius? I used to really think a lot of you but this post is just BS. As someone who has actually been in this exact situation, and who was also a writer at the time, I have some advice. Firstly, let yourself take a couple days off to rest, relax and cry. We all need time to grieve. Secondly, after those few days - start working again. Even if you don't feel up to it, do at least half of what you'd normally do each day - it's too easy to slip into depression if you aren't being productive; it will help you. Thirdly, remind yourself that the person who died would want you to carry on and be happy; so try to do things you enjoy in your free time, do things that make you smile and laugh and feel happy. Some people feel guilt being happy when a loved one has recently passed away, but you must remember that this what they would want for you. Take good care of yourself and try to keep those things in mind, please.
sure how do i get there? why do i need to give you a call, aren't you everywhere? I think a lot of these threads are BS as well, your point? And I'm curious why did the OP have to include "I'm a writer"
Believe me, I'm a lot more cynical than you but every so often there's a genuine one. Either way, the advice from people responding to the thread is good and applies to people who are in that type of situation.