google don't want to index me

Google show a little back links for a site. Just wait for another update of back links of and you will see some of your back links. For a while try to use this tools http://www.rankalert.net/backlink-watch.php to see your back links..

 

If G not showing any backlinks, it don't mean that website don't have any link, sometimes it takes long time.
You can perform your search with: "www.abcxyz.com",

Xenu and link harvester is good software to find backlinks,

 

google does not shows the real time backlinks. it updates the backlinks before every pr update

 

The only way you will see all your links from Google is if you sign up for webmaster central and verify your site.

 

You can also force Google to show you some of your backlinks. Just do a search for your domain (in quotes).

 

like everyone else said - need a bunch more details, like are the pages indexed, do they have PR....maybe are some 'bad neighborhood' pages - or links doing you more harm than good?