Girlfriend or Luxury?

yea if girls spends your money , so thats not love...shez with u coz of your money , kick her ass asap

 

work for single one otherwise you will lose both

 

The point I was making is that it doesn't necessarily matter if she's out of a job or not. It's that people were making assumptions and criticizing before there was any clarification, and that's just pathetic. Like I mentioned, who were they users here to know if she had savings that were contributing to the expenses or not? Who are they to know what the real credit card issue is (big difference if she got her hands on it and used it vs him assigning her to the card with authorization and then later complaining about it). I've been in enough relationships that have had money issues to know it's never just one person's fault. And that includes being on the OP's side of the fence.

I remember what it was like with one of my recent exes. Even though I earned more, he considered me jobless b/c I was "home all day." To him that meant I didn't know enough about money to make financial decisions (I have a biz-related degree, have studied economics and accounting more than most in my shoes, and was even making more than him!). In my case, it was pretty similar. Rather than him telling me what type of job to get outright, he instead said that when we moved in together (we were planning on it) that he wanted me to fork over all of my earnings through my business to him, and he'd decide what I could spend. So believe me, I absolutely get the urge to say "to hell with you" when someone tries to control what or how you earn a living. I really do. But there's always more to the story than what one side wants to share publicly, and that's my point. DP members are hardly in a position to be offering serious advice on serious personal issues based on a few-paragraph, one-sided rant. But like I said before, it's moot anyway. It sounds like the OP dealt with the situation as he saw fit, and that he was relatively happy with the results, and that's what matters.

 

Looking to recession period, you dont have to get off your work as i know money is not everything but you know that without money also there is no life, love your work, enjoy your work and still continue your work otherwise i am sure you will repent if you let go your work.

 

Yeah I see what you mean, jhmattern. We don't have all the story. Still, it didn't look too good. If you came here with the story of your ex who didn't respect your freelancing work and wanted to manage your money, we'd be all over him too like sharks on a wounded seal. Good thing for you he's an "ex" now.

I know being alone can sound scary for some, but self respect is important. Nobody should try to be what someone else want you to be, using "love" as a carrot for control. Look for someone who takes you as is.

I also think everyone should have some work experience so they learn the value of money and how hard it can be, day in, day out.

 

The best option here is to him to employ your time highly & to speak that only the money can save our end of report/ratio.

 

With out luxury you can never have girl frd

 

Ask her to get a job, maybe she can make a friend and not bored, If you think you still love her, get a nice trip..

 

Ditching her isn't the question now, she ditched me and saved me the guilt of doing it. Yes, I am 22 and she is 21 so both pretty young. Just for the thoughts of the job, she didn't lose her job in recession, she just didn't bother ever applying for one (which I don't really understand considering we had no kids), I would have taught her about the marketing side and maybe we could make another 50k or so with her help, but without being too cruel, I just doubt she would be able to improvise because she doesn't really understand how marketing works.

 

i want both of them ehehe