Gay weddings become law in the UK

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by DarrenC, Dec 4, 2005.

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What do you think?

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  1. elkiwi

    elkiwi Active Member

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    #121
    There too many different people and parents to say that one format (hetro or gay) would cause more problems, than another.
     
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  2. stuw

    stuw Peon

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    #122
    This sounds like what we have in New Zealand.

    There is a school of thought that this legislation only goes halfway. Yes it does offer the same protection as marriage - but it's not marriage. Which some people are saying means 'yes your equal - but not quite equal'

    There are gays opposing the legislation in NZ because of that distinction.

    In my mind I say who cares. I'm not religous anyway, and my straight marriage, was just some fun on a beach with an elephant and some dancers. Not some stuffy old guy (wearing some sort of arcane dress - who isn't even allowed to get married anyway), in a huge dusty building with carvings of semi naked men nailed to the wall. Phew! Bloody god bothers, buy some better shoes.

     
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    #123
    Listen, I know how it confuses a child when mom and dad seperate. So you can't tell me that it wouldn't be confusing for a child to have 2 dads.
     
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  4. elkiwi

    elkiwi Active Member

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    #124
    Would it be confusing if a child came home from school and found his mum paddling his dad's bum, while he was on the floor wearing a pig's mask, and squealing?
     
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    #125
    heck yeah, but you cannot justify one thing with saying that there are other bad ways to raise a child, so we shouldn't object to anything that might be confusing.
     
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    Calbert Well-Known Member

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    #126
    Im not gay, but I have friends who are.

    I dont understand why 2 people who are in love CANT be married. Its crazy!!
     
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  7. elkiwi

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    #127
    I'm not talking about "bad ways to raise a child" I'm talking about humans. If you can expain the "your dad wants to be a pig sometimes" stituation to your child, you can also explain that your Mum loves another woman or Dad loves this guy.

    I know I'm over simplifying things but don't deny a family of being a family just because the parents are gay.
     
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  8. Crazy_Rob

    Crazy_Rob I seen't it!

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    #128
    Like I said, I want to see the results of some research.

    I know there's research that shows children of gays ARE NOT more likley to "become gay" as a result of having gay parents.

    I assume that if you have two moms, you're going to be good at golf. And if you have two dads you're going to have good taste in clothing.

    So I just want to know the overall social ramifications of being rasied by a gay couple.
     
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    #129
    if daddy likes to dress as a pig and get spanked, the kids have no business finding an unlocked bedroom to walk in on that. but do you think they won't pick up on daddy and daddy being a couple? Come on, man!
     
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  10. Crazy_Rob

    Crazy_Rob I seen't it!

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    #130
    Dude, keep your personal fantasies out of this discussion. It gets us nowhere! :rolleyes:
     
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    #131
    Sorry, I wrote that post badly. Of couse the children would know but at the right age you can explain to them why their parents are both dads or both mums. I suppose most of their problems would come from society as Rob said before.

    I live in Spain and homosexuality is much more a "normal" thing. It is not everyone. But you definatley don't have so much... "oh look at that gay couple" thing here.
     
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    #132
    I'm friends with a gay black man. I try to get all of my of my minorities in one person because it's easier that way. If I could just find an albino amputee midget lesbian I'd be all set.


    I read somewhere straight men like dressing up like a pig more then gay men at a 3:1 margin.
     
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    #133
    Way to go, UK!
    It's so funny. Guy's are all about lesbian porn, but letting 2 women get married? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

    It's so hard to find something that makes and keeps us happy, I'm happy for the UK in having an open mind - and congrats to all the gay couples that are getting married. :)
     
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  14. Crazy_Rob

    Crazy_Rob I seen't it!

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    #134

    I don't think gays were branded as such until the 19th Century.
     
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    #135
    You're wrong. They stopped branding gays in the 19th century.

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    #136
    ElKiwi, I've lived in San Francisco for 2 years. Trust me, it's not like that everywhere :rolleyes:
     
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    #137

    It depends on what you consider 'bad'.

    Every child has things they're unhappy or embarrassed about...and I'm sure that children of gay parents are faced with being teased or feeling unsure about things at times, but what child doesn't go through that at one point or another? This is reality. Having gay parents might cause some anxiety, but I for one don't consider it bad parenting. It's certainly not abuse, and I wasn't trying to use examples of abuse as justification...it was about putting things in perspective.

    I think you either support gay marriage or you don't; marriage being the union of two people who love each other and want to support each other and their family (ie. children). Once you start cherry picking what they are and aren't allowed to do then it falls back into discrimination.
     
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    I grew up in dysfunctional family. My parents actually tried to stay together for me. At one point I told them please just go ahead and get a divorce.
     
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    #139
    #1 yes there can be bad or teasing in any situation, however gay parents can put it in automatically, any other bad traits of a parent are just extra.
    #2 supporting gay unions/marriage but not supporting them to have children are 2 totally seperate things and is not cherry picking in the least. How do you figure that's cherry picking?
     
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    #140
    Lets stop black folks marrying white folks and have kids AND lets not allow black couples to raise white kids OR white couples to raise black kids. Their children may get picked on at school

    C'mon people - is it really that big a deal?
     
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