UPDATE, March 2007: From pessimist in the US to optimist in the Philippines (Why I like Filipinas the best) There is good news now. As I'm writing this from the Philippines, I am happy to say that I am now a perpetual happy and positive optimist. How did I do it, you might ask? Well it's simple, but it wasn't by changing "myself" (for I wasn't the problem). And it wasn't by changing my attitude, thoughts or going through some self-help/pop psychology/New Age program or seminar. In fact, I didn't even have to change myself or who I was. I just remained the same person. Instead, it was simply by changing my geographic LOCATION, environment and culture, entering another world so to speak. Let me explain. In the US, no one talks to me except old people, I can't get any dates at all, women are completely anti-social to me, strangers act like I don't exist, and I am totally ignored and feel like I don't exist. Unfortunately, women in America generally don’t like to meet new people. They don’t even talk to you unless you are in their clique or they grew up with you, or it’s business-related. And that’s unacceptable to me. But everything I do to try to change all that seems futile, as if trying to change any of it goes completely against the flow and against the grain, inappropriate and out-of-bounds! Ick! It's a no-win situation, or a serious incompatibility at least. So, with everything that I am suppressed, strangled, and invalidated, how could I possibly be happy or positive, when I can't be who I truly am or act out my nature of being an outgoing fun vibrant social butterfly? It's simply not possible, nor is it natural. But on the other hand, here in the Philippines, I can be who I truly am, and when I do so, it gets very POSITIVE results! The social environment here completely allows, encourages, and adds fuel to my very social outgoing nature, especially with women! Here, I NEVER have to be alone if I don't want to. I ALWAYS have many hot women to choose from, of all types - dark skin (chocolate), light skin (vanilla), medium olive color, cute, sexy, tall or short, etc. (If you think my ice cream comparisons are bad or cheesy, get this - when a dark skinned and light skinned Filipina are together, they like to refer to themselves as "coffee and cream") Often I have so many contenders that I don't have time for them all and have to cancel a lot of plans! Best of all, these sweet cuties and angels in turn see me as attractive, handsome, cute, interesting, charming, significant to them, etc. etc. and that completely VALIDATES who I am! I completely exist and matter to the women that I'm ATTRACTED to here! And that's HUGE! It means more than words can say. Everyday here, I feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise! Literally. No exaggerating here. Thus, I am finally allowed to be the social butterfly that I am, as well as positive, confident, optimistic and happy. How can I not be, when all my fantasies and desires and wants/needs are being fulfilled here, naturally and with the flow too!? Simply put, who I am is ACCENTUATED here, rather than invalidated or suppressed. Some people here even say that I'm the most positive and confident person they've ever met. (If only they knew where I was coming from!) The difference is astounding. It's like a completely different universe where I'm a completely different person. The magnitude of my dating life here is literally "out of this world" (out of the world of America that is). And it's not because they all want my money or a green card to the US either (though there are a portion of bad apples, scammers, and hustlers here that I sometimes run into), because • Many girls don't care about my money and STILL like/love me even after knowing that I'm a cheapskate and very frugal. Many nice angels here don't even care if I spend money on our dates, as they just like "being with me". • Also, and my consultant attests to this too, most of the Filipinas I’ve met or dated here prefer that their boyfriend or husband stay with them in THEIR country. (They are family-oriented after all and need to be near their families, though if their lover insists, they will try to go overseas, albeit reluctantly) That right there DEBUNKS the common American misconception that foreign women date American men only for a green card to the US. • Besides, I’ve slept with a total of FOUR WHORES here (from bars, clubs and pickup places) for FREE, simply cause they liked me and found me sweet, romantic, tender and charming! They never asked me for any money! Imagine that. That could never happen to me in the States. That proves right there that they aren’t after me only for money, but that I am very likable and charming to them. Also, I’ve gotten FREE kisses from literally HUNDREDS of girls here too, including many FREE French kisses from bar girls and door girls that I never bought ladies drinks for (and NO, they don’t do that to every guy!). In fact, some of the relationships I have here even eclipse the romances portrayed in Hollywood films, to the point where when I watch them, I say to myself, "I have a lot better than that in real life!" And that's something I could NEVER EVER have said in the USA! In fact, I don’t even watch TV here (like the millions of couch potatoes in America, of which I used to be one of) because I have no need to, as my REAL LIFE is more exciting to me than what’s on the tube! The most significant difference for me is this: When I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the US, they think I'm a creep, and react with hatred and/or antisociality. But when I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the Philippines (and in most other countries), their response is overwhelmingly positive, and react with enthusiasm and/or attraction. That's a whole world of difference. As an incredible example, when I go to the local mall here in the Philippines, about 90 percent of the girls will give me their number if I ask for it, even if they are really hot and the kind that you would say “ouch!†and consider out of your league! 90 percent! But in the states, that percentage is…….. yep you guessed it, zero! What a universe of difference! In fact, most of the time, they enjoy being "picked up" and "hit on", finding me charming and attractive. And my sweet talk and compliments make them feel good about themselves, so they like being with me. Likewise, the biggest difference between my life in the Philippines and the US is this: When I am dateless in the US, all I can do about it is masturbate, watch TV to escape loneliness, and eat potato chips/junk food. And if I can find people to hang out with, it’s usually guys. But in the Philippines, I’m never dateless or lonely. I have so many hot girls gunning for me and contacting me that I don’t have time for them all and have to cancel on them or postpone them! My only disappointment is not having enough time and not having enough of me to go around for all the hot chicks available here! (especially when each one wants me to be “the only oneâ€!) Thus I am constantly desired and in demand by a neverending supply of hot chicks! Now, again that’s a whole UNIVERSE of difference, beyond belief, yet TRUE! In my opinion, Filipinas make the best girlfriends, lovers, and friends. Compared to females in the other Asian countries, they aren't as strict, serious, prudish or hung up. Instead, they are more relaxed, carefree, happy-go-lucky, easygoing, playful, passionate and sensual. They are also very nonjudgmental and nonracist. And they have a great sense of humor, enjoying the silliest things which easily amuse them. Thus, you can always have fun and joke around or play with them, even if you have nothing else to talk about. That's so nice and refreshing, especially when you are so accustomed to antisociality and hostility from women in the US. Best of all, they LOVE to flirt. When I flirt with girls in the Philippines, they not only enjoy it, but it actually ADDS FUEL to our chemistry (whereas in the US, flirting with girls "creeped" them out and emanated a vibe of hostility from them). And that's a big thing to me, because I am a big-time flirt! Filipinas are also a great blend of outer and inner traits. Ethnically, they are Asian, Malay and Spanish, resulting in a very exotic and beautiful mix that is very pleasing and sensual to the eyes. Their exotic sexy sensual olive complexion ranges from light to dark shades, all of which are sexy to me and many other foreigners here. And their attractive highly feminine appearance is combined with a tender romantic loving/caring inner side to them – a fantastic blend to say the least. They have this warm sensual tender touch in them that white women definitely don’t have (not to sound racist). I’ve experienced it and can understand now why so many foreign men are addicted to the Philippines and to Filipinas. I think it’s a genetic thing, not just a cultural thing, as you can feel it to the bone (and soul). Not to sound racist, but just as brown sugar is healthier than white sugar, and brown rice is healthier than white rice, (as any nutritionist will tell you) perhaps brown skinned women are healthier for your mind, body, and sanity as well. They seem to bring this natural balance to your life and soul. Thus, I’d say that even if you didn’t have a taste for Filipinas or Asian women before, if you come to the Philippines, you soon will. Once you’re here and experience females of this caliber, any preferences you had will simply go “out the window.†They are also a great blend of White and Asian traits. Their Spanish blood makes them much more wild, relaxed, passionate and expressive than Orientals such as the Chinese, Japanese, or Koreans, who are non-expressive, robotic and overly serious and strict in comparison. And they have big round eyes that are considered attractive in Western Culture (although to my surprise, my slanted Asian eyes are considered more attractive in Filipino culture than their big round eyes are). They have all the physical beauty of thin feminine Asian women in light and dark colors (“vanilla and chocolate†so to speak), as well as their humble, modest, sweet, pleasing, soothing romantic nature. The only drawbacks to them are that they don’t like to think much, don’t like to answer questions or provide explanations when asked to do so, and are sometimes moody and quiet for unexplainable reasons that they refuse to discuss. It seems in their nature to be that way. Thus you don’t get much intellectual stimulation with them. But the good news is that it’s much easier to train and educate them than it is to teach a Westernized woman to be sweeter and more loving. Although Filipinas aren't as intellectual, educated, or deep-thinking as the European women are, they make up for it in their other qualities. They have this essence about them, warm sensual tenderness and a way of treating you that makes you feel needed and loved, like a real man, in a way that you had always wished and dreamed deep down but never dared hoped for. It's beyond words - something you have to feel and experience as a man to understand. And when you do, you realize it's what you had always wanted.and even friends. They are tender, sweet, passionate and fun. In a way, it's like they give new birth to your heart, for if your heart had lost faith in love, they awaken it and renew it with their child-like hope and belief in love, making it a reality for you, and making you a believer again as well. The bottom line for me is that here in the Philippines, I feel APPRECIATED, VALUED, DESIRED, WANTED, LIKED, LOVED, NEEDED, etc. (I have cute girls following me around as if they’re hypnotized!) whereas in North America I constantly felt ALIENATED, ALONE, IGNORED, UNDESIRED, UNWANTED, NONEXISTENT, and worst of all POWERLESS to do anything about it. In short, all my WANTS, NEEDS, DESIRES, and FANTASIES are fulfilled here. Basically, it’s like this: Here, there is ALWAYS ACTION to be had, so I am never bored. I can always go out, have fun, get hot girls, and any type of action I want or need, ANYTIME! Contrast that to back in the states, where I was forced to stay home all the time, as no one wanted to meet me if I went out, so there was no point. There was nothing to do, no action to be had, no one to meet, no fun to be had, etc. It was complete boredom and suffocation, as well as loneliness and isolation. (Yuck!) But now that I can get action anytime I want here, or have fun whenever I want, there’s a reason for me to go out everyday! Wow. I NEVER have to stay home and be bored if I don’t want to here! In fact, there’s always something going on here that is fun and wild that I can PARTICIPATE in interactively (I won’t give you specifics, but leave it up to your imagination), not just sit back and watch passively, more than there is time for! Best of all, there are ALWAYS tons of hot/sexy/cute/gorgeous girls who constantly want to meet me, be with me, have fun with me, get wild with me, and whatever escalates between us, MORE than I can handle! It’s literally a “sex babe Disneylandâ€! And I gotta tell you though, when you can go out and get hot girls, dates and action ANYTIME you want, and you have hot cuties gunning for you daily, it’s an INCREDIBLE FEELING. Nothing beats it! It feels as though you’ve transcended the barriers and physical laws of the universe! And it makes any sacrifices you make to be here definitely WORTH IT. Anyone who saw my life here and my life in America would think that I was in two different universes. I’m serious. And anybody who witnessed the difference in person would never blame me for saying all these things either. That I can GUARANTEE. I have literally thousands of photos now, from Russia, Europe, and Asia to prove it all – how different my social/love life really is here vs. back in America. To see visual proof of what I’m talking about, see my new photo collage from the Philippines: www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Collage2.htm And this photo of me and girls says it all too: www.happierabroad.com/P5060062.jpg (gee do I look happy there or what? Lol) So, contrary to what New Agers and attitude fanatics (the "you create your own reality" crowd) think, I didn't become a happy optimist by changing my attitude, thoughts or beliefs, but by exercising my power of choice and braving it out against the fear of the unknown, by going to another location on the other side of the globe. PS - For another awe inspiring story of Salvation in the Philippines, see my cultural consultant’s account at: www.happierabroad.com/Love_Adventure_Philippines.htm
I liked the title of this thread and I thought I would smile after reading it. I am a filipina and I am proud to be one though I am more of a mix of american/spanish/chinese and filipina but I was born and brought up here. I am so sorry but I have to react to this thread which I find to be very offensive to filipinas like me. I know you're happy with your life here in the Philippines but the way you depict the filipinas is a bit disturbing. Filipinas don't just throw themselves to anybody; may it be fellow filipinos or foreigners. Unfortunately, Philippines is a third-world country and as much as I hate to accept the truth, some women do seek for greener pastures but these women mostly belong to the poorest of the populace. I am not very happy with this "Although Filipinas aren't as intellectual, educated, or deep-thinking as the European women are, they make up for it in their other qualities." that is rather below the belt. Come on, what type if filipinas have you been dealing with? Please don't generalize because that is very insulting. We are as intellectual as any human being. It has nothing to do with race or color. I can go on and on with my comment here but I don't want anybody to raise their eyebrows on me so I would want all filipinos/filipinas to react to this. This is an attack to us Filipinos. Please let's all just respect each other and live in harmony.
I've seen the pics. what's so happy about it? the girls look like corpses. don't you ever generalize all the filipinas based from those girls you've hooked up ok? in the first place,those corpses you've hooked up are only after your money...nothing else.
"Although Filipinas aren't as intellectual, educated, or deep-thinking as the European women are, they make up for it in their other qualities." WWu777 who the hell are you? is this you? i saw in http://www.geocities.com/wwu777us/
I agree with them. Remember NOT ALL Filipinas are like that.!! BTW i found this link .... is this really you? http://www.happierabroad.com/Winston_Dianne.htm
There are different classes of people. There are Class A, B, C and D crowd. If you flock yourself with the D crowd, don't judge the higher classes into being just like them. This is the same in every country. It's just sad that filipinas are perceived that way... I mean, come on... Look at those photos... It speaks for itself.
W: Sorry but that's just a copout by ignorant Americans who never travel extensively. I already explained to in my post why I'm not liked here just for money: And it's not because they all want my money or a green card to the US either (though there are a portion of bad apples, scammers, and hustlers here that I sometimes run into), because "Many girls don't care about my money and STILL like/love me even after knowing that I'm a cheapskate and very frugal. Many nice angels here don't even care if I spend money on our dates, as they just like "being with me". Also, and my consultant attests to this too, most of the Filipinas I’ve met or dated here prefer that their boyfriend or husband stay with them in THEIR country. (They are family-oriented after all and need to be near their families, though if their lover insists, they will try to go overseas, albeit reluctantly) That right there DEBUNKS the common American misconception that foreign women date American men only for a green card to the US. Besides, I’ve slept with a total of FOUR WHORES here (from bars, clubs and pickup places) for FREE, simply cause they liked me and found me sweet, romantic, tender and charming! They never asked me for any money! Imagine that. That could never happen to me in the States. That proves right there that they aren’t after me only for money, but that I am very likable and charming to them. Also, I’ve gotten FREE kisses from literally HUNDREDS of girls here too, including many FREE French kisses from bar girls and door girls that I never bought ladies drinks for (and NO, they don’t do that to every guy!). " And even if they did like me for money, so what? My needs, desires, and cravings are FULFILLED here. And that's the bottom line. It's better than being dateless, horny and desperate all day like in boring America, where there's nothing to do but watch TV, and no one talks to you out in public. See the leading questions on my ebook title page: www.happierabroad.com/ebook.htm Oh and to Philposter, sorry but each race has its pros and cons. I pointed out the pros and cons of Filipinas in my experience. How much dating experience do you have in the Philippines? ALL foreigners here agree with me and list the SAME PROS AND CONS. Only internet armchair quarterbacks disagree. But I said mostly good things about Filipinas. They are my favorite so far. So what is your problem? Maybe you are oversensitive. Everything and everyone has pros and cons. Let's be honest about them.
W: Yes it's me, why? Most Filipinas ARE like that. The pattern is everywhere and everyone here in Angeles City agrees. We live in the action and we know what we're talking about. Patterns exist, and only the weak minded are offended by them.
offended? no not at all. actually we are just laughing our A** out seeing how happy you are with corpse-looking girls. oh and guess what? I'm actually a filipino living in Angeles City.