Facebook made me addicted and obssessed

Discussion in 'Facebook' started by jamesd11, Feb 24, 2010.

  1. #1
    Back in 2007/8 I have registered on Facebook but i hardly used it until late 2008. i was adding strangers and friends who i know then i started to change my information status! ive changed my interested in from women to men and recently joined gay and lesbian groups to allow friend requests from the LGBTs to add me and then i began making new friends on the way too. it wasnt until 2009 wen my parents found out about all this since i was at college and that really made everything go totally bullistic or is it bollistic? i have got an obsession with facebook and even though i was diagnosed with autism since 5 yrs old, facebook is making things worse for my life as well as other social networking sites but mostly and mainly facebook.


    Here's what I do for daily basis on Facebook:

    I log on to my account
    Update my status like every 10 or 30 minutes
    Get a few or no comments back
    Write on group walls to encourage other users to send me friend requests
    Play some games and Facebook quizzes
    End up losing friends dispite some of my behavour with them which was inappropriate

    You see? everyone around the world can get hooked on facebook or even bebo or twitter but it was facebook that was my huge problem! my mum and dad says its controlling my life and that i could get into trouble by posting alot of updates on e.g. about my feelings, saying that i hate mum and dad and calling mum a loud mouth ***** (no offence) and the fact that facebook friends are NOT REAL FRIENDS as wat mum keeps telling me cos everyone on these sites are not real but i dont think thats true cos not everyone looks like themselves according to their photos and appearance unless they only got profile pics of animals or places instead of themselves. there was this time on facebook that i was planning to go to a nightclub with my facebook strangers (friends) though i kept on posting on their status saying that i wanna go out with them but they just have a go at me and say no u cant cum wiv us (that not their words btw) but i did go eventually and that was when i left my bro alone at home so i sneaked off to that "gay" nightclub and guess what? i did see them and their faces! so they ARE real believe it or not cos i was expecting facebook friends to be fake or look completly younger to their photos.

    oh i just cant believe all this now and all the trouble i caused at home staying up all night til 5am, chatting on MSN and facebook to my m8s etc. now at the moment i am away from facebook and mum and dad has sort of banned me from going on it mainly because i can communicate well on the internet and not in person because of my autism and learning difficulties telling everyone worldwide that i am gay or bisexual (just bisexual/bicurious)

    i hope you all understand my feelings about facebook and other social networking sites because i do need help
     
    jamesd11, Feb 24, 2010 IP
  2. condenanza

    condenanza Member

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    #2
    I think that you should delete your Facebook account and search other friends in sites more friendly, like interpals.net
    You know what? I have a lot of friends in interpals, and they are 100% real, and 100% friendly. They are searching friends around the world too.
     
    condenanza, Feb 26, 2010 IP
  3. ron_bun

    ron_bun Active Member

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    #3
    Facebook or social addiction is not new. You could find that there have been many like you and many still in the making.

    In order to solve this, i would suggest one thing:

    The idea is to minimize the usage and not drastically bring it to a zero level. Therefore, indulge in sports or join a gym or maybe join guitar classes. You can make real freinds and a real social circle out there.
     
    ron_bun, Feb 27, 2010 IP
  4. bigcat1967

    bigcat1967 Active Member

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    I lift weights and bike to get away from my laptop (and my clients). Replace a bad habit with a good habit.
     
    bigcat1967, Feb 27, 2010 IP
  5. smsinhindi

    smsinhindi Peon

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    #5
    Better to delete your facebook account and engage your self in some fun activity with your friends
     
    smsinhindi, Feb 27, 2010 IP
  6. RWormwood

    RWormwood Peon

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    #6
    Facebook is so addicting because you can keep following links to people and groups and pictures for hours.
    Then there's those silly little games. When I found myself spending 1-2 hours a day keeping up with my "farm" I knew there was a problem.
    I finally got rid of the farm and limit myself to checking my account twice a day for no more then 5 minutes each time. I only check messages and links that were sent directly to me and leave the rest alone. A good book is much more enjoyable.
     
    RWormwood, Feb 27, 2010 IP
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    GH Fever Peon

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    Are you serious?

    I never understood how people could become so obsessed with Myspace, Twitter, but especially Facebook. They are all time-wasting garbage websites that clearly ruin lives. The only thing I use Social Media for is to promote my business. I'm not letting thousands of strangers now my daily routines and what is going on in, and this is an important one, my personal life. I suggest you do the same.
     
    GH Fever, Feb 27, 2010 IP
  8. believer1984

    believer1984 Peon

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    I go outside and talk with neighbors and friends to avoid my PC
     
    believer1984, Feb 27, 2010 IP
  9. wisdomtool

    wisdomtool Moderator Staff

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    #9
    Face Book is mean to complement social activities and interactions. It is not meant to replace human to human communications. If you are using Face Book as the primary means of your social activities. It may be wise to delete your profile and go on to live a real life.
     
    wisdomtool, Feb 27, 2010 IP
  10. jamesd11

    jamesd11 Peon

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    no thanks. i do not wish to deleted my account. i still want to keep it for the rest of my life. every1 is allowed to keep their social networking profile account for as long as they like.
     
    jamesd11, Feb 28, 2010 IP
  11. RWormwood

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    #11
    I don't think it's fair to expect everyone to interact the same way. What if a person is too shy, different or lives in an area without a lot of opportunities to pursue social interaction? Why does everyone assume that interacting online is somehow less important or less healthy then interacting face to face?
    Some types of people will never leave the house to join a club or group. Interacting with friends and family online is better then sitting in front of the tube all day.
     
    RWormwood, Mar 2, 2010 IP
  12. clemiatguava

    clemiatguava Guest

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    #12
    I think it would be best to set a limit on the amount of time you spend on FB each day and stick to it
     
    clemiatguava, Mar 3, 2010 IP
  13. Raffay

    Raffay Active Member

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    #13
    Better delete your account and spend more time with friends outside your home rather than sitting on a computer and commenting and uploading pictures and joining groups , pages also playing games like farmville which is a total waste of time though poker is better :p xD
     
    Raffay, Mar 3, 2010 IP
  14. ali123

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    Delete the account and get a life.
     
    ali123, Mar 4, 2010 IP
  15. etc

    etc Well-Known Member

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    i'm also addicted as i play sorority life apps in facebook :D
    i get lots of friends through it.
     
    etc, Mar 5, 2010 IP
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    krispy Peon

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    #16
    lol i used to be a FB addict as well. you can use a sofware to disable your access to the page or just edit the hosts file. or maybe delete your FB profile
     
    krispy, Mar 6, 2010 IP
  17. goproxy

    goproxy Member

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    This kind of social networks are like everything, a little could be good and fun, but too much is bad.
     
    goproxy, Mar 6, 2010 IP
  18. StWhitey

    StWhitey Greenhorn

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    This is why FB can be a life wrecker. Because you are autistic, your local council might run some social events, try some of them and ask somebody else to delete your facebook for it, it will make life much easier :D. Then ask them if possible to block it in your browser so even if you tried to register again, you couldnt
     
    StWhitey, Mar 6, 2010 IP
  19. YugoSlavac

    YugoSlavac Well-Known Member

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    How in the world can someone become addicted to something that's on the internet? I understand certain things like shows, but to a social network? What ever happened to actually going out to bars,clubs, or just hanging out in REAL LIFE? That's what I was addicted to back in the day. Now, everyone would rather go on Facebook or Myspace because it's easier. But, I can't argue since I do enjoy using Facebook. Even though I only use it for keeping in touch with relatives around the world, i'd never get addicted to it though.

    Yugo,
     
    YugoSlavac, Mar 6, 2010 IP
  20. MsFit

    MsFit Peon

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    I love facebook, I check it a couple of times a week.
    I'll play the applications games for a while, see what friends are up to, then log out.
    It's alot of fun, but I try not to spend too much time on it.
     
    MsFit, Mar 6, 2010 IP