At the minute I am the dirty secret in my relationship. Let my explain. I am a white guy, and met my girlfriend when I was out teaching English in Thailand. After I fell in love with her, she revealed something to me....no she's not a man...she is a muslim. Her family are very religious and her grandfather founded a mosque and formed a muslim community within a small part in Thailand. I did meet her family as a 'friend' and they were all extremely nice people. She is pretty certain that if her family knew about she would be cut off. So as you can imagine it's quite difficuilt for her. Enter the new problem...Currently she is in the States and I am in Ireland and it seems her mother has taken a notion that she should get married. The other guy has already been chosen. I actually laughed..a lot...when I first heard this. I don't think anything will happen though with that newly arranged marriage. I will see to it personally. Have any of you guys and gals been in similar situations, where for whatever reason, your relationship was kept secret? How did it work out for ya?
a lot of times they don't work because you get tired of always hiding it. it is hard to have secret relationships because you always have to be careful of what you say, how you act and what you do. but some times its worth keeping it a secret and other times its pointless.
Keeping the relation secret, does give its own share of joy but I would not dare to carry it for long.....simply for the fear of loosing it completely. It would be wise to come out in the open before it becomes too late...is my sincere advise. If you are really serious about this relationship, give it a chance to survive in the real world. Keeping it buried under the ground forever would never help it see the light of the day! Regards, RightMan
The secretive part did make it exciting for a while. But yeah sooner or later you get bored of having to tiptoe around. I feel that it may come down to a choice for he between me or her family. That is worst case scenario. You guys are right forbidden love is sweet but short lived.
I used to work with a guy who had an arranged marriage, and he seemed pretty happy, but I'm sure they aren't always so great. You will need to see if your friend is willing to reject the will of her family. Good luck.