DIVORCE! - How To Get Through The Nightmare!

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Fatherspirit, Jul 15, 2008.

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    Planning an amicable divorce is all about respecting your partner's boundaries and rights. You should be also considering your own rights in the event of any split and be aware that an amicable situation is one that has room for all parties to state their case and effectively negotiate.

    Communication is always going to be the key and many people report that the practice of this over a number of years has held them in good stead in the event of a divorce. If an amicable divorce is looking unlikely due to tensions and intense anger and frustrations, it is often a good idea to seek legal advice early on in the piece. This can act as an effective buffer between two parties and the professional abilities of a mediator should be a great aid.

    A divorce should always be centered around the needs of only the married couple if possible. By that I mean that dragging other family members into the equation and using children as objects of bartering will never lead to an amicable split. The process can be traumatic enough as it is without foisting hassles onto others.

    One exercise that can sometimes be a good idea is to clearly draw up a list of the material possessions that each party brought to the relationship. In the event of no pre-nuptial having been signed, it can be a great help to consult the list together and divide items forthwith.

    Don't rush a divorce if it can be helped, and always remember to respect your leaving spouse and think back to the good times that you did share together. It often helps to remember that many relationships don't last a lifetime and the reasons for this are many and varied, so be gentle with your self, especially emotionally.

    Amicable divorces are possible with a bit of forethought and sensible planning. Keep calm and focus on the end goal when life should return to a smoother plane for all concerned.
     
    Fatherspirit, Jul 15, 2008 IP
  2. donlin

    donlin Active Member

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    All that can be avoided with a pre-nup. I would never marry without one. Its like long term insurance.
     
    donlin, Jul 15, 2008 IP
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    EvcRo Notable Member

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    yeah, divorce can be a friendly separation of both spouses, but for this to happen both of them should be mature to accept the break up and to start over again without resentments.
    for me divorce is a sad thing.
     
    EvcRo, Jul 17, 2008 IP