Arranged marriage stories from my Afghani friends living in US

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  1. bfebrian

    bfebrian Peon

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    #21
    then I give you another link then in here
    Muhammad pbuh already know that his time already come, but there are so many things that need to be taught.
    His male companions mostly already old, and maybe can't remember much of his teaching.
    He need someone who can stay with him and learn from him so than can pass the knowledge to others.
    And Aisha, is the excellent candidate because she may be the smartest people at that time.
    And Aisha can't learn many thing from Muhammad pbuh unless she is his wife, because Islam not allow.
    The married was not a mistake, because later on after Muhammad pbuh passed away, Aisha become one of sources of Islam.
    If there is any other woman as smart as Aisha, maybe in my opinion that Muhammad pbuh will married her instead Aisha.

    But than again, I found this excellent writing in here where with some proof the writer questions the hadiths. I have to thanks you to you st0x because I learn more and more about Islam.
     
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    #22
    He could still have done those things without marrying a child.
     
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    #23
    i doubt that you ever read my post.
     
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  4. stOx

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    #24
    I read it, It didn't once bring up the fact that mohammad married a child. At what point does anything you mention require a 9 year old girl to marry a man?
     
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    #25
    So I did a Tarot card reading one day for this muslim girl and her friend. Her friend was about to enter an arranged marriage and was quite excited about it, she also acted like I was the devil :D The girl however had been set up with a marriage but something had happened and the groom (living in India) had married another. This girl was all bent out of shape because she was sure she could not find a muslim man that she could fall in love with AND that her parents would approve of AND one that would let her persue her career, she was about to enter medical school. She was still basically searching for an arranged marriage but it was more of a let the parents date them first sort of thing than the marry a stranger because it was arranged. She explained that her dates would be chaparoned and the families would meet and discuss this courtship before anything would happen. My Tarot cards seemed to indicate she would find her match and her family would approve, but that it would be a man about 10years older than her and it would take a good while of "dating" before he would give her any sort of real commitment. It all seemed extremely strange to me but at the same time I can't really condemn it either. My long bumpy road to finding my wife was just as difficult for me but in an entirely different way. If arranged marriages are acceptable to the parties involved and not forced upon them without their input I can't complain. As far as the lies others have talked about, that happens no matter what :D Ever asked a woman her age?
     
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    #26
    I did not.
    I only state reasons why Muhammad pbuh married Aisha, why he choose Aisha to be his wife.
    I know that Asiha married at her young age, but that is necessary as reasons above.
    Did you read the last link that I gave you?
     
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    #27
    And i say they are bad reasons. marrying her wasn't required.

    At what point does the facilitation of anything you mention require a 9 year old girl to marry a man? Tell me what could not have possibly occured if it were not for him marrying a child.
     
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    #28
    Isn't this about arranged marriage stories? Can't you all make a new thread to argue about Mohammed and whether he should have married a pre-teen? Or perhaps just argue about arranged marriages instead of Mohammed?
     
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    #29
    can't you make a new thread to complain about what people talk about in threads which you have otherwise contributed very little to?
     
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    #30
    I contributed a personal story and opinion, you contributed the same old religion bashing you always do. I read through it hoping it was relevant and I just don't understand how it is. What is your personal opinion on arranged marriages and do you personally know of anyone who has been a part of one?
     
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    #31
    1 - Child brides as young as 8 were common, not exceptions, among the Byzantine emperors and nobility.
    2- Prophet Muhammad's marriage with Aisha was 100% legal and acceptable by all laws and Divine Religions!
    3 - Joseph, Mary's husband, was "90 years old" when he married 12 to 14-year old Mary! Was he too a pedophile? (source)


    if you want more explanation please let me know !
     
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    #32
    I agreed. This thread about arranged married that exist in many part of the world and religions, sorry for hijacked the thread.
     
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    #33
    That man was lucky for the last few years of his life.
     
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    #34
    Oddly enough, I tend to believe she was happiest when she was with him.
     
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    #35
    1. Appeal to popularity
    2. A prophet should know better. If he is a prophet from god wouldn't he know that in the 21st century people would view paedophilia as one of the most vile crimes imaginable?
    3. I'm not going to defend christianity.
     
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    #36
    Let me give you a more explanation so you can know. If Joseph was of advanced age, it would have been mentioned in the Bible like Abraham's age was mentioned. If he was that old I am sure it would have been mentioned in light of his work and travels.

    Also your source, the branch of Christianity known as the Roman Catholic church, believes that Mary was perpetually virgin so that source isn't a good one for your case of making Joseph a pedophile. They also make mention that girls are mature at 12 and a half which is true for many twelve year olds but not for 6 or 9 year olds.

    To kinda pull this topic back on topic, I did meet a guy about 20 years ago who had a wife here in L.A. and also back in the Middle East. He laughed at US law and his dumb wives. I don't know what lies he told but I should have followed him out of the gym one time to get his license plate number off his Trans Am and reported him. Maybe next time.
     
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