Am I to young?

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Am I to young to be a mother

  1. Yes you are

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  2. No you are not

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  3. Normaly I'd voted yes but reading your story I vote no, you are not to young.

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  1. #1
    Ok this is rather a kinda serious topic. I am asking if I am to young to be a mother but generally I mean if girls or boys ar to young (21) to have children. And then I mean people who deliberatly choose to have them and not by accident.


    Why I am asking this? Well to be honest. I have become a mother 5 months ago and many people ask me if I am up to be a mother, only because they think I am to young and such and they don't think I can. I am married (4 months now) and my husband is 37 years old and earns more than enough to feed us and pay all the bills. Curren;t I am working on saterdays and the rest of the days I am home with my son. aking care of him and doing the house hold.

    So Am I to young?? Honest opinions please.
     
    janneke, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  2. prinzcy

    prinzcy Active Member

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    No, age is not really a problem but whether you are prepared mentally and financially. Since you said financial is not a problem, so I guess you have to be prepared mentally. Being a mother is not easy but you'll learn as time goes by.
     
    prinzcy, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    bogart Notable Member

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    Stop worrying about if you are too young and take care of your husband and son. When your husband comes home from work treat him well. Use your spare time to develop your web business. Good Luck.
     
    bogart, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  4. Jerlene.net

    Jerlene.net Prominent Member

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    It's just a mindset. A 13 year old can be too young to have sex but be an amazing mother. It's depends on the person.
     
    Jerlene.net, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    login Notable Member

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    #5
    21 is not to young, dont worry, 21 is very good.
    13 and a good mother??? I would say that you need some experience in being grown up before you gets to be a good mother or father.
     
    login, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  6. Jerlene.net

    Jerlene.net Prominent Member

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    You'd be surprised. Hawaii is the home of 13 year old mothers and a lot of them are good at it. Age has nothing to do with it.
     
    Jerlene.net, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  7. bogart

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    21 is not too young and you will grow with your child.
     
    bogart, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  8. tripy

    tripy Guest

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    #8
    I totally second that.
    Being a good mother have nothing to do with age. If you feel yourself happy in your situation, if you don't feel like you lost something more precious (I mean free time here, and I know what I'm talking about), then no, you're not too young.

    Don't listen to those peoples who want you to do things the way thaey have or would.
    They don't live your life. Live yours the best you can, and don't mind jealous or pesky peoples.

    I was 28 and my wife 32 when our baby was born, and seriously, even if it's more the norm yet, this is late.
    Today, we seriously think that the mid twenty is the best time.
    For the energy, for the enthusiasm, for the health condition.
    When you're past 35, thinking about a 2nd baby raise much more concerns about trisomy, genetic diseases and risks in general.

    So go on, be happy, and raise your son the best you can.
     
    tripy, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  9. Nora

    Nora Well-Known Member

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    #9
    It sure sounds like you're up to it. :)

    I'm only two years away from being 21 and I think I'd find myself way too young for that.. just make sure you don't give up on life.. its okay to take care of a family and all but you still need to do things for yourself and ask yourself things like what you'd do if the marriage ends. Now that you're young you can work a lot on your career.. what if you stay a housewive until something goes wrong? Then you'd be in real trouble. Not saying it will happen but I come from a family in which it did and no matter how perfect a situation is, you should always consider the possibility of it ending..

    You really do sound strong because a lot of people wouldn't be able to handle it. Goodluck with everything! :)
     
    Nora, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    #10
    If you prepared enough is no problem for a monther, but for me is really 21 young age to be a monther or father
     
    foreststone, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  11. janneke

    janneke Well-Known Member

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    LOL I always do that ;) he has nothing to complain. When he is home dinner is standing hot on the table for him. :)
     
    janneke, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    My high school friend got her first kid when she was 17 so NO!
     
    clade, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    glad to hear that
     
    bogart, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  14. janneke

    janneke Well-Known Member

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    I am what they call here in holland an old fashiond wife. Most mothers go to work 5 times a day and put their child and a day care centre. I stay at home do my house hold, and when my husband is home I try to give him the best care I can since he is the one who is working his ... of for us.
     
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    I voted yes but, I would party :) before doing something like that. Know what your going to do before you do it :)
     
    powell, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  16. shaun12345

    shaun12345 Banned

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    #16
    i think your the right age but your husband is to old tbh :) you need a new husband called shaun! :p
     
    shaun12345, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    crownrahul Well-Known Member

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    #17
    hi,
    your age perfect age to become a mother, Take care of your child..
    anyway, anyone become a mother after start a Menstrual / Fertility Cycle .
    thanks
     
    crownrahul, Sep 25, 2007 IP
  18. janneke

    janneke Well-Known Member

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    LOL depends on how pretty you rae lol

    (jk people)
     
    janneke, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    #19
    I voted normally I'd vote yes but after reading what you wrote, I think so. Don't listen to what anyone else says, they don't live with you and can't judge you so easily, especially based on your age! Keep doing what you're doing, motherhood isn't easy for anyone but you seem like you really planned for it and are all set. Good luck and congrats! :D
     
    Pauline, Sep 25, 2007 IP
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    girls marry at 18 too, thats fine,
     
    forumrating, Sep 25, 2007 IP