first before u ask another question, learn to say thanks to the person above u who took the time to give u an answer. reciprocal links means that u have to give the "directory" or website a backlink too if u want them to accept your submission/link.
Automoted directory software works? I think from my years of experience, that these can be seen as a negative and I watch out before letting a amounted system from doing it Manual is the way to go. Good luck
Im using http://www.digixmas.com/ directory submitter. It is automated, except for the image code. Pretty good result.