Abledating/Ablespace Social Community Software Feedback

Ok, so this is my first post in this forum or any technical forum for that matter. I too was looking for a community social networking solution and was very close to being suckered into buying Able Space or Able Dating. I also looked into buying from a company called Web Scribble and Boonex's software solutions. I am so glad that I visited alot of forums to listen to peoples feedback on these products before wasting my money. From what I gather Handshakes and PhpFox are the two best options as of now. I am happy to say that I am not purchasing any of these products, but I am going to develop my own software and license it out as I see a real need for bug free software, that is easy to install and modify, and great customer support. The website will be SocialMonkeySoftware.com, now it's just parked as of now, but the software and website will be coming within 120 days of this post and a ton of cash later. There will be no add-ons, or plug-ins and it will rival WebScribble and AbleDatings ambitious features (minus the 3D City Chat...which may come further down the pipe and will be central to its own website).

Here is where I need help. I saw some suggestions from a few posters on several different websites. Mostly they were suggestions to Dimitry or whoever that russian guy is from AbleSpace. Anyway, the suggestions basically told him to fix his problems and distribute his software freely to a handful of "veterans". Is this veteran posters of the forums, or technical gurus on particular sites. How can I find the right people to get my product into their hands so they can go through it with a fine tooth comb? Any suggestions on folks (that can be somehow verified) as being a veteran, technical guru, or just someone that has some kind of clout and can give my product and service their stamp of approval would be greatly appreciated. Please feel free to email me or contact me throught this forum with any advice and/or suggestions.

Respectfully,
Shane