Need some advice guys

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Xyle101, Nov 4, 2008.

  1. #1
    Right now I can't organize my time because I think I mess up with my life I am 21 years old and I've made a big mistake because I think I am too young My girlfriend got pregnant and we didn't know about it but yesterday I'm on my way to go to my work but suddenly my Cell phone rang and I don't know who it is because the number was not registered in my phone and she tells he was the friend of my girl and she's saying that my girlfriend was miscarriage and I don't know if I'll believe it. It got me think twice because I just receive a memo from my office that if I didn't go to work I will be Suspended So I just think deeply which will I go for so I decided to go to the hospital to check my girl? am I did the right thing?.
    And Just an hour ago I am leaving the hospital to go to my work but the father got angry to me and just said that I can't go because he's accusing me that I am abandoning his daughter which is not true. And I promise that I will be back after my work but the sad part is he tells me that tomorrow I will not leave the hospital because It is my duty to guard her daughter because its my fault and the have a lot of job to do. But if I will not report to office tomorrow no matter what the reason is I will be terminated. I am very confused right now guys I don't know which way to go.
    is it right to just abandon my work and got to be terminated or just leave my girl there at the hospital alone.
    I am very confused right not but I really love my girl but what about my job.
     
    Xyle101, Nov 4, 2008 IP
  2. EvcRo

    EvcRo Notable Member

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    #2
    If your job is very important to you, i think you should go to work and try to fix the problem there...if it's not, then stay beside your girlfriend no matter what...I guess there are plenty of jobs for you there.
    But my best advice is to consider both matters very seriously...don't give up to your job and don't neglect your girlfriend especially in a very difficult moment like this.

    Gook luck!
     
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  3. lycos

    lycos Well-Known Member

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    #3
    I'm sorry to hear your predicament. What EvcRo has said is true because basically both are very important to you. I'm sure if you explain well to her parents, they should understand your situation. Make them believe in your sincerity and attend to your girlfriend as soon as you came back from work. Either way, explain it to your boss and hopefully you will be allowed some day off to attend to your personal matter. It's all up to you to approach and solve the problems.
     
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  4. ads2help

    ads2help Peon

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    Explain to her father and say: I need to work to give your daughter a better life!
     
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  5. Kerosene

    Kerosene Alpha & Omega™ Staff

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    It doesn't happen by magic.

    I lost the plot at this stage. She tells he what? Who he what? What friend what she was?
     
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  6. MarkRobbins

    MarkRobbins Peon

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    yeah I'm a little lost as well. What I can say is this. Call your job. Explain the situation. Send an email to your boss documenting the situation. Once that happens it is difficult for them to make this incident the reason for dismisal, but you must document it and perhaps provide proof of the hospital incident.

    As for me trying to figure out who the friend is? who got who pregnant? and whether it is your father or her father that is pissed....I have NO idea. But cover yourself with a call and email (with read receipt) and if you ARE the father then stand by your girl
     
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  7. MarkRobbins

    MarkRobbins Peon

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    and buy the way...like sucks, buy a helmet
     
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    writebright99 Peon

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    #8
    Love stands above money so fuck that job and sit near ur girlfriend holding her hand u will feel better
     
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    cessvergara Banned

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    #9
    Job was indeed important...but love ones must weighed more, keep that in mind,you got the right choice.
     
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  10. mdvasanth86

    mdvasanth86 Notable Member

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    #10
    You need to spend time with her... You can try calling your boss and try convincing him telling him all that has happened to you.... People don't like to shoot a dead snake... I mean, your boss would understand your present plight and will help you for sure....

    so,, stay with your girl... you owe her that much... perhaps, you owe her more than that!!
     
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    Thats why you shouldn't have had sex without being married. If you commence on with doing whatever you want and don't be close with God then you'll basically continue to have problems. If you can get another job quickly with the same pay then go to your gf but if you had difficulties with your job and need it badly to support your new family then go to your job.
     
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  12. trebor_evets

    trebor_evets Guest

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    i definitely agree with this one.. you should have the courage to face the responsibility you have on your shoulder now.. just keep doing the right things and God will help you..

     
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  13. MarkRobbins

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    Come on. regardless of matrimony or not, she would still be having a medical problems and he would still have issues at work. I understand your beliefs, but the reason no one adhears to your methodology is that fact that it is preached from up high and not based in reality.

    stand by your girl, do right by your heart...in the end that is what matters
     
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  14. donlin

    donlin Active Member

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    Next time use a "Johnnys Raincoat". and your job comes first always.
     
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    or just pull out way earlier...LOL
     
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    Best of luck with your situation.....tough one.
     
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    where are you working anyway? They run a very tight ship.

    You shouldn't have stayed with that company. You should've searched for a place where they allow emergencies.

    I say explain to the father that your company will fire you if you don't go to office. I'm sure he'll understand and won't let you become unemployed.
     
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  18. Xyle101

    Xyle101 Banned

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    Thanks guys your advice gives me an idea and time to think and it helps me feel better now, but no matter what explaining I'll tell my boss he will not listen to it, because it is our company policy.
     
    Xyle101, Nov 4, 2008 IP