I met my wife online in 1996 and we have been married 12 years. When i came down the ramp from the and looked into her eyes, I knew then she was my soul mate. I was from California and she was from Kentucky, guess where we ended up living ?
I think it is very possible. Granted, there are a lot of fake people out there, but I know several people that have gotten married from meeting on the internet first. In fact, one person I know only met one time and maybe spent one week with her in person before getting married. With todays technology, there isn't much difference in sitting at a table in a restaurant talking and talking via webcam. You don't have to give physical affection to get to know them. However, most real life relationships do extend to meeting family, co-workers, and generally getting to know the "baggage" that you are going to have to deal with which can mean a lot in some cases.
It is very possible to fall in love with someone you met online, the simple reason is this, all you can do is talk to each other. You learn a lot about a person this way. Most scam artist will not wait months to meet someone so if they have been talking for a while, it's probably okay. I have met 2 men online that I have loved one before I met him and I talked to him as friends for a year before we realized we liked each other and another I talked to for a few months and we are still friends and in an on off relationship after 6 years (were not ready to settle down yet) My advice though is to meet the person before too long because it is only then that you can know for sure, don't let these two waist time talking if they really think they love each other. Being with someone in real life is a lot different then online. It may work it may not, but it's better to know sooner then later.
Of course it's possible. If you love someone for the right reasons, that is. You don't need to physically see someone or have sex with them to love them to love them. Having a long term relationship without meeting though... that's weird and it wouldn't work out.
RIGHT reasons? Care telling few Ashley (Though I've some idea yet would love to know.. cough cough****)
Well, let's say you meet a girl in a club. A few days into it, you have sex and you're totally in LUST. You mistake lust for love and decide to take things further and move in together or get married. You couldn't possibly really KNOW each other. But on the flip side, meeting online you would get to know every single detail about the person beforehand. Of course there would be little things/"annoyances" that you'll find or notice when you do meet the person, but if you are 100% sure that you love them, it wont matter anyway. So when I say right reasons, I guess I just mean for reasons other than physical appearance.
Agreed! People hardly reveal online what they're actually. It's fine to know a person to some extent (to a better extent) but 100% is not possible. I can't agree with that "every single detail". As I already said, people are quite a lot different when they meet in person. We love someone online; we assume, we trust and we carry on.. But when we meet after this online; things are confirmed (whether it is a YES or NO ) little things/annoyances doesn't matter for sensible people of course...
Okay maybe not *every single thing* but all of the important things. If your relationship is where it should be, you'll know just about everything about that person, and even what their temperament is like. If you are actually able to get involved with a person online, you are most likely discussing everything about each other with them and just learning more and getting to know the person better. If it was in person, you'd most likely be hanging out for awhile, having sex, and then going home. Not asking many questions and not volunteering too much information in fear of "saying to much" to scare them off. Not saying that "normal" ways to start out a relationship don't work, or never will, just with meeting someone online, there's less room for things like that. I mean, you'll KNOW if you don't like the person... unless all you care about is how good in bed they are and what they look like... and to be fair if you are considering something serious with this person, they should already know what you look like anyway. That shouldn't be the number one thing obviously, but it is very important to most people. Sounds bad, but it's true right? Oh! And as for people not being the same in person... well I'm sure that's the case sometimes, but that's a very case-to-case type of thing. If you honestly believe you know the person, why would you not want to do it? If you already know you love them, nothing should matter. And like I said, if you have feelings for someone online and you don't plan on meeting them, just go ahead and end it because it's pointless and pathetic.
Nah.. Nopes.. doesn't sound bad at all! What I'm trying to say that there is no guarantee other side will be true with all details. We're always little or more conscious being virtual. I know these online couples tend to discuss almost everything but I've seen cases of fake details (not all though). I recommend meeting in person to finally ATTEST that love was actually worth loving. We may inclined towards the person but can't be sure. I beleive in a decent trust level but not 100% surety about love without meeting personally. And I agree with you that hanging around things. It's all about frequency that matches with some and not with others. Testing and trial are facts of life; be it personal or professional.. though some are really lucky and don't require that testing and trial phase... Eeeeehhh.. going too far Okay.. I stop here.. Looks around***
I believe in person is the only way, people can hide who they are online and you have no idea who they really are but then again i suppose you dont in person either.