My husband wants this one house and I've tried to stay positive about it, but he's overdrawn on his bank account and I have no money. We owe $20,000 in medical bills and I can't honestly see how we can afford this house. All my husband complains about is how much he hates to work, but we can't afford to not work. I've been getting more and more depressed lately. All I want to do is cry. I don't feel like doing anything, not even earning more money because what's it going to do? I'm still going to be broke. I don't want to file bankruptcy because I'll always feel bad about it. Plus, there are tons of jobs in the field I want to go into that I'll never qualify for because you can't get them if you've filed for bankruptcy before. All I feel like doing is laying in bed all day.
I know the feeling but my motive wasn't no money but no one to love but still same feeling .... What can i say money are money you just need to work hard theres no other way ...
I think u must heard this "Where There Is a Will There Is a Way" there is no solution of hard work. if you work hard you can achieve what ever you want.
I was in this mood 3 years ago.I was os much depressed always frustrated.But one of my friends showed me the way,he told me to concentrate in one thing.So I dedicated all my times learning programming and I am a happy man now.Just try to sharpen any arm that you have in your arsenal and if you know how to use that arm in proper way you will obviously be successful.Just do your works with full concentration and you will reach your goal.There is no alternative to work hard.
Read some books by Robert Kiyosaki, especially Rich Dad, Poor Dad, it will change our outlook on all financial matters and is definitely a good investment.
Never loose your heart. Have confidence in you and go ahead to solve your problem. First see, how can you clear the medical bills and then you can think of the house. You too can try for a good job to supplement your husband's income. Good luck.
I know how you feel. I was in high school when my parents were forced to sell our house due to failed business ventures. We moved from place to place until we manage to save and start over again. Sometimes it may seem that there is no hope but don't give into despair. Just keep your hopes and dreams alive and I am sure your problems will be solved one day.
It is very hard to find a good man nowadays, May be you shall listen to your husband,man is not easy to support a family.
All of us have been crossed through rough times...believe in your strength! God gives us only what we can handle and I'm sure all that it's happening to you is a test to see how strong you are!! Be self confident and good luck!
This is a difficult position, I think your husband should try to find a job that he enjoy doing because no matter how much he hates working quitting work is not an option.
Sound like a gutter experience. Ask me nit nice, but with perseverence and positive frame of mind, you can overcome this
If you still can't afford to buy that house then don't buy it just yet. Make a deal with your husband and focus on paying your debts first. Take it one step at a time and eventually you'll be okay. Just hang in there.
Hey, thanks you guys. I appreciate all your positive statements. I feel a lot better and I'm feeling up to work again. I'm glad I have my job and hopefully someday my husband will be able to have a job that he enjoys or that we'll be able to afford him to stay at home. Thanks to all who replied. I left +rep to you guys for being so positive, since I've repped to many and couldn't rep all you guys I'll be back tomorrow. This forum needs more people like you guys.
Very true - very hard to find a good man these days , however I say don't listen to your husband but actually show him true facts of the problem you are in and ask him to wait before he considers to get a home. Once he is happy that all the debt is gone and happy with his work and savings then decide for a home, otherwise it is going to cause you even more problems in the future and relationship if you just go with the flow. my two cents