Hi All, Okay so I have a lot of trouble initiating communication with a women. Things like I panic because I don't know what to say, I usually end up feeling awkward and don't know what to say. In my head I say hello, then ask what they do but after that I have a mental blank. Also, when it comes to showing interest, such as eye contact and smiling, I tend to get nervous. Basically I want advice on what I should talk about, and ladies I would like to know what a guy would/has done that you liked the approach and explain it. Kind of like a coach. Imagine if you were standing beside me, what would you be telling me? If you know any great book, it will be highly appreciated!!!! Thanks in advance
I don't know any great books about romance. But I read a book about a year ago called the System by Roy Valentine. Awesome book. It's mostly for guys. It's a no-nonsense, no-frills book that teach guys how to pick up girls. Anyway, i can say this book changed my dating life. Like I said, not for the great romance but highly recommended if you just want to bed chicks.
I think one good thing to remember is that in a lot of cases, the women are feeling as nervous and shy as you. It may not be obvious, in fact they may use bravado and maybe even rudeness (especially in front of others) as a cover. Not all will be really nervous, I guess, everyone is different, depends on experience or how used to males they are (eg if they have brothers, or lots of male friends), as well as personality. And some may be even more shy, which can make it harder for you as you may interpret shyness as standoffishness or lack of interest. Just keep in mind- women are people too.
How can you say he was a spammer? He was just asking question. Anyway about your problem you need courage. And what you feel is natural. If you really have feelings with that girl why don't you tell her what you feel. At least, when you tell her both of you will know what spaces you have in each other. And if ever you are beside me, I will ask questions out of the blues^_^ that is my way of getting nervous out of my system^_^; hehehe and about books? The first one I read was The Birds of Passage , why don't you try that one.
i think you just have to be yourself don't try to memorize anything just be yourself and show your real intentions
Well, austin22, firstly, I wonder what is your present age? Secondly, I would suggest you to open a conversation with a girl on any general topic.It will then go on from there onwards.Dont think too much.
ok i have liked this girl all through grade 9-12 than in grade 12 i finally asked her out to movie and she said yes but it was at the end of the year and after the movie we kinda never said we should do this again or anything and i tried phoning her 3 times but she wasnt home so i've waited 3 weeks now cuz we just graduated and dont go to school together anymore but i still wanna ask her out again and im just wondering how i should do it, if i should visit her at her work (restaurant) she's waitress, or phone her or sumthing, i also want to know a good place to take her thats a better place than a movie and if theres anything funny i can say to start up a conversation cuz im not good at starting conversations but once i get going i can do well. Thanks for any advice.
I would go out for dinner, And i would go to her work and ask her if you think you can. Or bowling, thats fun And as for conversation, do you have a common interest? something you both like?
well...if u think she'll be cool with u, going to her work...that's better....but try to act like u were shopping or somfing and u thought it'll be a good idea to drop by and say Hi...girls love it when u go to their work...well most of them... try to come with a original idea...but if not...dinner is always good...and plz...never go to a movie for the first date...if u dont the girl that well...coz u can't talk to each other....and after the movie...u always have that weird 5 or 10 minutes that u don't talk that much...if u know wat i am saying... so dinner is a good idea...and try to act like an @sshole...but in a funny way...just for the fun of it...arrrgh i can't really explain it well over the internet...but all the girls i have dated...that how i get them... One other thing...if u really like this girl...GO for it...and dont wait..coz u'll lose her...go for it while it's hot and she might has a feeling for u....!!! i hope this helps...Good Luck man... keep us updated
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Where are you from? If you lived say in London you could take her to the London Eye. Or if you live near a beach, why not ask her to go to the beach with you? BAD idea! Who'd like to date an idiot? At least I wouldn't